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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To call my neighbour selfish

457 replies

Fedupandgrumpy1 · 21/09/2023 19:36

We live in a quiet street with about 10 houses in. I have mobility issues and also struggle with my MH. It's important for me to have as much sleep as possible so I tend to go to bed at 10.30pm and don't get up until about 11am.

Very recently a family moved in next door. They have 3 children who are lovely and not a problem. But their mother annoys me and I feel she is being selfish. She works strange hours and most days leaves the house to go to work at 4.30am. She drives an old car and the doors creaks when she opens it. She then normally sits in the car with it running for 5 mins before driving off. The father is fine.

I have spoken to her and told her about my health issues and have asked her to consider changing her working hours, replace her car or to park her car in a road away from the house. She said she was sorry that she disturbs me but she cannot change her working hours due to the nature of her job. She said they can't afford to replace the car and as its an old car she has to warm it up before going anywhere. She admits the door creaks and said that oiling is didn't help. She is not willing to park away from home and she doesn't think its safe to walk on her own early in the morning with no streetlights.

She is making me more poorly. I am now having to sleep a bit in the afternoon due go being disturbed and as a result am missing out on me time.

What can I do about it? I'm fed up of her selfish behaviour.

OP posts:
Elliania · 21/09/2023 20:22

If you need peace and quiet that badly then I suggest you move to a location with no neighbours.

HerMammy · 21/09/2023 20:23

have asked her to consider changing her working hours, replace her car or to park her car in a road away from the house.
Dear God, the cheek of you!!
You'll need to persevere with the earplugs.

Redglitter · 21/09/2023 20:23

I have spoken to her and told her about my health issues and have asked her to consider changing her working hours, replace her car or to park her car in a road away from the house

😂😂😂

Wow! A whole new level of entitled CF

348 votes and a full 100% saying YABU. That must be a first

Nocturna · 21/09/2023 20:23

Why don’t you buy her a new car? Win win!

Morechocmorechoc · 21/09/2023 20:23

I dont believe this thread is real but will humour you. She has 3 kids and is going to work at 4.30. She clearly doesn't have spare money or she wouldn't have such an old car. Think about how things are for her, you can even sleep in the afternoon and most of the morning. If she's leaving at 4.30 go back to sleep, she's only out there 5 minutes. It sucks to be ill but also sucks to go to work at 430 in a crap car.

Get a grip.

ChocolateCakeOverspill · 21/09/2023 20:24

Well OP, personally I think you sound great.

The perfect neighbour.

BusyBees1234 · 21/09/2023 20:24

You've asked your neighbour to change her working hours or buy a new car?

Wind your neck in you entitled idiot

notcurrentlyactive · 21/09/2023 20:24

I'm just here for the thread deletion message.🍿

Seychal · 21/09/2023 20:24

Redglitter · 21/09/2023 20:23

I have spoken to her and told her about my health issues and have asked her to consider changing her working hours, replace her car or to park her car in a road away from the house

😂😂😂

Wow! A whole new level of entitled CF

348 votes and a full 100% saying YABU. That must be a first

And in the space of 1 minute that has gone up to 403 votes and still 100%.

Oooooooooooo1 · 21/09/2023 20:25

Pahahahahahahahahahaha
What utter nonsense, why not ask them to 'just' move?

HunterHearstHelmsley · 21/09/2023 20:25

ChocolateCakeOverspill · 21/09/2023 20:24

Well OP, personally I think you sound great.

The perfect neighbour.

🎶 That's when good neighbours become good friends 🎶

Morechocmorechoc · 21/09/2023 20:25

Also what world do you live in if you think people can just change their job or hours at the drop of a hat, ot should do that for a neighbour.....just wow, how stupid and selfish do you get.

Chocolate2cake · 21/09/2023 20:25

This has got to be a wind up.
For 10 years my neighbour would get up at 3am, start his van and in winter, scrape the ice off. Yes it sometimes disturbed me sometimes even woke my then babies up but not once did I think about suggesting they changed jobs!

Why do some people think they are more entitled than everyone else? 🤔

Merryoldgoat · 21/09/2023 20:26

Truly one of the funniest things I’ve read on here in a while 🤣

Toottooot · 21/09/2023 20:26

Awa bile yer heid min.

Mistressanne · 21/09/2023 20:27

If you’re sleeping until 11 am what about the neighbours who go to work at 7 am?
Do they not disturb you?
This is definitely a bs post.

marblesthecat · 21/09/2023 20:28

You sound worse with every update tbh. "She must have some spare money" seriously? leave very early for work and I do try not to disturb my NDneighbours but I'm aware they might hear the porch door pulling across in summer when their windows are open. But at the same time I hear them coming in late from work. It's just unavoidable eveyyday noise.

AnnaBlush · 21/09/2023 20:28

Just some ideas ( I see you have ruled out ear plugs and buying her a car)
I see you suggested her changing her job - as it’s it’s a choice, needing sleep isn’t
Would you be able to secure her an alternative job? With equal pay that works round her childcare- if you think it’s easy?
Or you could ask her to park further away- but then walk her to her car? and simply change your sleeping pattern to accommodate this
Or move to a rural area - although I do warn you foxes can be noisy

I am guessing she probably needs her job to feed her children/ keep roof over head unfortunately.

Apologies if replies here aren’t helpful. It is horrible not being able to sleep
I find if I have lots of sleep I wake up easier- but if I have 6 hours I am definitely a heavier sleeper

Fedupandgrumpy1 · 21/09/2023 20:28

I'm sorry I'm just tired and struggling. I wasn't nasty to her. I just asked. I do appreciate that it can't be easy for her either.

OP posts:
wutheringkites · 21/09/2023 20:28

I am now having to sleep a bit in the afternoon due go being disturbed and as a result am missing out on me time.

This last bit was a shark jump.

PinkBuffalo · 21/09/2023 20:28

Wow if not for the kids this can be me cos I leave for work about 4:30! I always try no disturb no one on the estate especially next door but lucky I have nice next door cos that would massively stress me out!
New cars are expensive I am barely covering the essentials as it is!
what about getting some extra think curtains and working on insulation so the noise is less likely to interfere with you sleep?
this poor lady it is no like she is keeping you up by watching loud tv or anything she is just going to work

Lb603 · 21/09/2023 20:28

Oh my goodness, I really hope the replies on this thread show you how unreasonable you are being.

if it’s impacting you that much buy special ear plugs (loop look good), you can’t expect the world to resolve around you, you are getting an awful lot of sleep, appreciate it might not feel like that due to your health condition.

Oooooooooooo1 · 21/09/2023 20:28

Chocolate2cake · 21/09/2023 20:25

This has got to be a wind up.
For 10 years my neighbour would get up at 3am, start his van and in winter, scrape the ice off. Yes it sometimes disturbed me sometimes even woke my then babies up but not once did I think about suggesting they changed jobs!

Why do some people think they are more entitled than everyone else? 🤔

Edited

Coz they're spesh innit Grin

holjam · 21/09/2023 20:28

Is this real?

Rainsdropskeepfalling · 21/09/2023 20:28

@Fedupandgrumpy1 ear plugs or move.

Simple.

But wow.