To not want to go on a date now I’ve seen his Facebook activity?

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Nevs · 01/09/2023 10:01

Would this put you off a guy?

Met a guy through a mutual friend while at a bar a week ago, we swapped numbers and have been Whatsapping since. Date planned for this weekend.

While texting the subject of social media came up and he said he’ll add me on Facebook.

He’s VERY active, posts stories everyday (walking the dog, getting a Starbucks coffee, his dinner) along with Photo posts every time he goes out.

It’s not just that he posts photos, but in all the photos he posts he always looks very serious and brooding, like a male model.

He went traveled to a nearby city abroad recently, twice, and on each occasion posted a photo of him stood infront of the plane. Again, with his serious brooding intense face, looking away from the camera into the distance like he didn’t know he was having his photo taken.
You’d think it was a private jet and he was a male Instagram influencer by the way he was stood infront of it, but the planes had RyanAir plastered all over it

We’d planned the date before I’d seen all of this

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Sayitaintso33 · 05/09/2023 09:38

SurprisedWithAHorse · 02/09/2023 08:01

Of course not.

But OP asked what we thought. Personally I think think if they get on in real life, it's worth continuing to see him in real life because lots of people who are great in reality come over a bit wanky on SM.

SM is also one of the MN hotspots for moral majority sneering and superiority, so the reaction to stuff that's possibly annoying but ultimately completely harmless is entirely out of all proportion. It's every bit as performative and self-congratulatory as a few pretentious selfies.

That's not to say she's obliged to date him. Of course she isn't. But if the dating world is as godawful as I hear it is, I wouldn't personally write off someone I liked because he isn't great at massaging his image on social media.

I find the concept of "the ick" incredibly immature and destructive too but that's a discussion for another time.

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Well said. That is one of the wisest things I have read on MN: compassionate, beautiful expressed and insightful.

Let's face it, those of us who waste too much time here would be well advised to get off our lazy arses and fly into an adventure, even with Ryanair. Although I'm very much an easyJet fan.

Bunny0707 · 05/09/2023 10:47

Responses from all the women married to Tom Hardy lookalikes, no doubt!!😂

PKDaisy · 22/09/2023 23:07

Sounds like he loves himself so much that he doesn’t need a girlfriend. I’d give him a miss.

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