To not want to go on a date now I’ve seen his Facebook activity?

[Nevs]

Would this put you off a guy?

Met a guy through a mutual friend while at a bar a week ago, we swapped numbers and have been Whatsapping since. Date planned for this weekend.

While texting the subject of social media came up and he said he’ll add me on Facebook.

He’s VERY active, posts stories everyday (walking the dog, getting a Starbucks coffee, his dinner) along with Photo posts every time he goes out.

It’s not just that he posts photos, but in all the photos he posts he always looks very serious and brooding, like a male model.

He went traveled to a nearby city abroad recently, twice, and on each occasion posted a photo of him stood infront of the plane. Again, with his serious brooding intense face, looking away from the camera into the distance like he didn’t know he was having his photo taken.
You’d think it was a private jet and he was a male Instagram influencer by the way he was stood infront of it, but the planes had RyanAir plastered all over it

We’d planned the date before I’d seen all of this

He just has too much time on his hands - go on the date and see how it goes

I know a woman like this, she is in her 50s and I just had a look at FB, yep, she has posted more holiday photos, in every photo she is fully made up and staring up into the middle distance, posing like a model, she is so full of herself, I think she just puts them up for the "looking good hun" comments😂

I just think she is a vain narcissist

I was once seeing someone and found his Facebook so off-putting that I dumped him over text. Afterwards I missed him terribly. We got back together and we are now very happily married and I couldn't care less what his FB looks like (within reason) I think no one shows their best side on social media really.definitely myself included xxx

Ryan air😂

This really made me laugh. The epitome of cool and sophisticated.

It wouldn't be his most attractive feature, and I would probably take the piss out of it an see how he reacted.

I know people who always adopt the same pose and face whenever being photographed, he has probably been told that this is the way to picture himself.

But I thought you were going to say loads of porn / off-jokes. / membership of dubious groups / loads of stupid rows about dirty laundry hashed out in public .

It could be that he just gets it all a bit wrong. And lacking a cat posts everything else instead.

(Lacking a cat would be a big plus for me!)

I would give him a chance, one date doesn't commit you to anything. I wouldn't let him take any photos of you though!
He could just be bored or lonely. If he turns out to be a vain social media obsessed twat you don't have to see him again

If you're dreading it definitely cancel but my first reaction was to think he's a laugh.
The brooding photo in front of the Ryan air plane is absolutely hysterical !
Are you sure he isn't joking ?

This would give me the ick, hard pass

It's not the pictures of himself so much as the wanky poses, surely.

I’d give him a chance. It’s cringey as hell but I have friends who do this who are still lovely people. It’s usually low self esteem. You could make lightly make fun of him at the broody posts and see how he reacts lol
Really think you should see how the date goes first and then gauge from there how annoying it is…

I'd be tempted to post one of those adverts they used to produce for men's underpants which always featured some model staring thoughtfully into the distance as if standing around deep in thought wearing nothing but Y fronts is totally normal. If he got the joke, fine. If he doesn't get the joke, the date is probably off anyway.

I'm in my mid-thirties and grew up on social media - Bebo anyone?!

This really wouldn't bother me. It's just a few photos on social media - he's not done anything offensive! MN seems to take Facebook very seriously though - it's just a bit of fun, surely?

Personally, from experience I’ve found people who sit on Facebook all day posting selfies and food are extremely self centred, narcissistic and vain and would be the type to only care about themselves. I’m sure he would show up well in the first few dates but I’d be wary of his mask slipping the further things progressed. They also seem to be the type who worry about far too much about what people on the outside think of them and seem to post stuff on social media to show off to other people and portray a false life.

I also would not date a man who only seems to have one facial expression in their photos - usually the hard faced, brooding, serious look and tend to veer more towards someone who looks fun and like they don’t take themselves too seriously and look like they actually have a personality and don’t live their life through social media.

Please go and tell us what he’s really like.

If his worst quality is taking “slightly too serious looking” (whatever that means) photos and posting then to Facebook… he doesn’t sound too bad.

Whilst your worst quality is making massive judgments about people, based on scanty information.

I know who I would sooner date

I’d give him a chance. If he’s a dick in person then.. Next!

I'd still give him a chance. If he was snapping away through the date then I'd bin him off. He might just be a mega cringe when he's alone.

I wish I took more photos of banal stuff to be honest.

give him a chance! he might be doing all this posting because he thinks thats what is expected or he is really lonely and wants to make his life seem vibrant and interesting. no such thing as Mr Perfect only Mr Compromise remember.

Perhaps give the date a go OP. He might have “main character syndrome” though 😂

My DP is very vain. Loves mirrors and looking at pictures of himself and has a photo pose/face. It's only one aspect of his character though, and harmless enough. It helps he has a sense of humour about it and is open to teasing. I'd feel differently if he took himself seriously.

I find it cringy.

I’m never sure if constant ‘check ins’ is a form of showing off or self validation. Both are offputting.

The Ryanair photo description made me laugh.

On the other hand, at least you (along with everyone else) will know where he is at all times 🤣

It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks (though this would definitely put me off!) the fact is you have the ick before you've even gone on a date so I'd throw this one back and try again. Sorry!

I was speaking to a guy like this recently and it did give me the ick a bit! But I went on a few dates with him anyway and he was nice in real life ☺️

Tragic attention seeking in my book. I know a small number of people like this and they are all deeply insecure. One posted a billion photos of her hen do because she wanted her ex-husband to see how happy she was! Once someone's an ex I couldn't give a damn what they thought.

I'd go on the date, ask him not to take or post photos of you/with you or mention or tag you on FB and ask him about his prolific posting.

Some people post on social media performatively and it's not something I do or am comfortable with. It's healthy to keep some things private.