To not want to go on a date now I’ve seen his Facebook activity?

[Nevs]

Would this put you off a guy?

Met a guy through a mutual friend while at a bar a week ago, we swapped numbers and have been Whatsapping since. Date planned for this weekend.

While texting the subject of social media came up and he said he’ll add me on Facebook.

He’s VERY active, posts stories everyday (walking the dog, getting a Starbucks coffee, his dinner) along with Photo posts every time he goes out.

It’s not just that he posts photos, but in all the photos he posts he always looks very serious and brooding, like a male model.

He went traveled to a nearby city abroad recently, twice, and on each occasion posted a photo of him stood infront of the plane. Again, with his serious brooding intense face, looking away from the camera into the distance like he didn’t know he was having his photo taken.
You’d think it was a private jet and he was a male Instagram influencer by the way he was stood infront of it, but the planes had RyanAir plastered all over it

We’d planned the date before I’d seen all of this

It would really put me off I have to say as I’m really not like that at all. I find it very cringey.

It all sounds a bit gauche and humourless, staring into the distance, broadcasting his morning coffee. If you got on in person maybe chance a drink (and ask him about his hobby!). Maybe he just likes to keep it as a diary. I can see why you're put off but if you get on great otherwise and he isn't doing it while you're there it's quite harmless. I would prefer to see something with a bit more wit or interest if he must post every 2 seconds.

Mm. I have to admit I’d be a bit turned off by that too, mainly the brooding middle-distance stare pose BUT I would probably still give him a chance, you never know, you’ve liked him up to now.

I’d give him a sceptical chance.

Genius 😂

Unless you're time poor I'd be inclined to go. You only need to stay for one drink, and it might be hilariously bad.

When I was dating even if I knew I wasn't going on a 2nd date I usually got something out of it - a travel tip, a restaurant recommendation or a great anecdote for sharing with single friends. Just keep it brief and don't get riled.

I'd find it off putting, but I'd still give him a chance and see how the date goes.

This wouldn't bother me. I mean it's a bit cringe but its harmless. I thought he was going to have dodgy opinions or something.

This made me laugh.

Is he doing it ironically?

What superior things do you post on your Facebook page @Nevs ?
People take Facebook so seriously sometimes when it comes to posts. I use mine as a mix of online diary of stuff I have done/places I've been mixed with memes I find amusing and photos of things I find interesting. It's just a laugh.
So what if he is doing silly selfie poses?

I've known some of my single childless friends to do that, maybe he's just trying to keep connected to his friends and family whilst he's lonely.

Gosh, he takes himself very seriously, doesn't he?!

Is it just me picturing an adoring mother in his childhood, praising his every utterance and artistic endeavour?

No different than anyone posting any selfies or pictures of themselves on Instagram or any social media site.

If he respects your choice to not be pictured, does it really matter if he posts himself. Cutting out anyone who posts pics of themselves will really limit your dating pool in this day and age. Most people have social media.

My cousins posts a lot on Instragram but never posts her husband. He doesn't even really have social media. I guess it could have been a deal breaker for him and I am sure he cringes inside at times but decided to look past that and date her anyways and they ended up married.

That would put me right off.

The only people I personally know who post like that on fb nowadays have personal issues and need a lot of attention. I only use fb now for local information and rarely post.

If this puts you off, just be honest with him and say his social media posts make you have doubts about your compatibility so you’d like to change your mind about a date.

I couldn’t have sex with someone that did that. Major ick.

Give the poor guy a chance

If he seemed OK in real life I'd probably go on the date and see how he is then. If he wants to do photos and be on his phone all the time then don't see him again and refuse to be in any pictures.

Ha ha, can you really class posting constant pictures of yourself as a hobby? Either way you can't deny the attention seeking nature of it

I get the instant cringe factor, but I have friends who do this and I think it usually stems from a lack of confidence. If you liked him without the Facebook insight I think it's worth giving him a chance. Though there is nothing wrong with deciding that, for you, this is a deal breaker.

That would totally give me the ick

He’s needs someone in his life to sort him out.

I was on your side a tiny bit until this. Tom from MySpace would be seriously offended.

Anyway, sure it's cringe but this could be the most decent guy on the plant. You'd be stupid to not at least meet up and try and get to know him.

Maybe he's a Zoolander fan?

Is it ironic? I have a friend who always posts photos with one leg on a rock - in a "I have climbed this mountain" way even if he's only eg been to visit the garden centre. It's a 20 year old joke. I'd give him benefit of doubt. There's a lot worse out there on dating scene.

How long do you think Social Media has been around OP?

Unless you are very early 20s ( where this seems like the norm with anyone ) then that would put me off too