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Or is this an unhinged thing to say?

235 replies

cteevee · 06/07/2023 13:16

Been seeing ExDP for the past nine months.

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

Is this even a thing? Wtf?!

OP posts:
BodyKeepingScore · 06/07/2023 13:17

Why do you care what your ex thinks?

AndTheSurveySays · 06/07/2023 13:17

He sounds like a catch. You must be pleased to have such a partner .

cteevee · 06/07/2023 13:17

BodyKeepingScore · 06/07/2023 13:17

Why do you care what your ex thinks?

Because we are back together.

OP posts:
MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 06/07/2023 13:17

Raise your standards op.

Sunnydaysarentagiveneveninjuly · 06/07/2023 13:18

Back together? I bet you are acting all grateful aren't you op?

InBedBy10 · 06/07/2023 13:19

Run and don't look back.

Valid8me · 06/07/2023 13:19

So is he your ex or not, I'm confused. Either way, it is a weird thing to say and he wouldn't be having sex with me again!

OnlyFannys · 06/07/2023 13:19

Why are you dating someone so dumb?

Valid8me · 06/07/2023 13:20

Cross posted, you are back together.

Missmarplesknittingbuddy · 06/07/2023 13:21

I suspect you " feel different " because he is comparing you with someone else he has slept with .
He was an ex for a reason

Sunflowering · 06/07/2023 13:21

Massive red flag.

JulieHoney · 06/07/2023 13:21

Dump his paranoid ass.

EmmaPaella · 06/07/2023 13:22

Yes, a red flag. A very clear one. Why did you break up before?

ItsNotRocketSalad · 06/07/2023 13:22

So he's jealous, paranoid, and using a favourite trope of incels. What a catch!

MostlyBlueberryFlavoured · 06/07/2023 13:24

He sounds amazing 🤡

OhComeOnFFS · 06/07/2023 13:28

So you were seeing him, then stopped seeing him and now you're seeing him again but he is acting unhinged?

Well just stop seeing him!

overitunderit · 06/07/2023 13:28

Gross! Dump him!!

RachelNoire · 06/07/2023 13:29

Ugh. I hope for your sake he becomes an ex again soon.

Seeingadistance · 06/07/2023 13:29

LTB again, properly this time.

Pkhsvd · 06/07/2023 13:29

Ugh I’d tell him that you’re not willing to have conversations like this. It’s not a thing to feel different but his paranoia is horribly unattractive

WilkinsonM · 06/07/2023 13:30

Horrible, controlling, demeaning and almost certainly behaviour of an abusive man.

gettingthethrow · 06/07/2023 13:31

It might feel different to him because he's been with someone else.
Now that is a thing.

orangeyeahthatsright · 06/07/2023 13:31

He doesn't exactly sound like a prize, OP. I think you need to raise your standards.

HippeePrincess · 06/07/2023 13:33

Sounds like my abusive ex, I would also wager it’s because you feel different to whoever else he was shagging.
leave him for godsake and stop going back to him, he’s an ex for a reason.

ManateeFair · 06/07/2023 13:36

Why the hell would you get back with someone like this?! He's an absolute piece of shit.