Or is this an unhinged thing to say?

[cteevee]

Been seeing ExDP for the past nine months.

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

Is this even a thing? Wtf?!

Why are you calling him ex DP if you're back together?🤔

What, like memory foam?

Gross. [shudders].

OP he sounds paranoid and controlling. Even if you did have sex with someone when he was your ex it's none of his business. Do you want to have to keep having that conversation over and over? Because it sounds like you will be.

Dump and run. Find someone who is not a total misogynistic toisser.

You deserve better than this!

Tell him you're constipated and that's why it 'feels different'. But honestly op dump him raise your standards and move on

And OP if you answered that yes you slept with someone when you were apart how do you think he would react to that?

He should remain an ex,.

It’s a massive huge deal. It’s got nothing to do with him what you’ve been doing whilst you were separated. Is he telling you what he’s been up to?

I’d run as far and as fast as I can if I were you

A comment like this would remind me why he was an ex. Like you said, in your own words… unhinged. Repeat that over and over again.

Get rid once and for all.

So you've been back together for 9 months and he thinks you've had sex with someone else very recently, not when you were apart? That's what I'm reading OP.

Sorry, I should have been more clear.

He was/is my ex. We were previously in a relationship. We have now been seeing each other again for nine months, albeit not "officially" together.

It is a relationship for all intents and purposes.

He's paranoid about me sleeping with other people, but I haven't slept with anyone else the whole time we've been back on.

Are you reading the responses cteevee?

I’d be telling him his attitude feels different, then dump and block him.

It is a thing, but not something he can physically feel when you have sex. It’s a thing he can use to guilt, manipulate and control you with. It’s a thing the can use to control the narrative with and it won’t stop.

He needs to be an ex once again OP. You are worthy of much more.

That's a disgusting thing to say. Misogynist and ill-informed. He's clearly thick as well as a prick.

Tell him that the last time you had sex with him he felt like a donkey but now he feels like a rabbit. Then ask him what he's been doing to cause this?

Alternatively you could just dump his sorry arse.

:S sorry I'm confused... You felt different ??? -_-

Why the fuck does that mean you have slept with someone else, like unless you slept with someone who has the dick the size of a horse then I'm not sure why that would change how it felt 🤣🤣🤣 I would dump him and say " yes I slept with someone and his dick was so big it changed me, unfortunately you are now to small for me sorry" and move the fuck on

@cteevee This man is raising red flags in your face and you are blindly ignoring them.

No - your vagina is not like a balloon that can be filled by magical cocks and stretch out of shape. He is lying about you feeling different.

He is lying to a) make you feel bad about yourself because he knows if you have low self worth/esteem, you are less likely to dump him and b) he is paranoid and jealous and controlling.

Neither are traits of a person who loves and respects you.

Why do you think this is the 'love' you deserve? Because it isn't even real love. It is a small, weak man using you to make himself feel bigger and better and when that isn't working he is tearing you down so you don't leave him in the dirt where he belongs.

REAL love builds you up and makes you feel like you are special and a true partner.

Dump this tiny tadgered wankpot and find a meaningful relationship with someone who thinks you are amazing.

He doesn’t own you. If you wasn’t together you can sleep with whoever you want. His obsession with you is weird, icky and controlling.

I bet if someone came along who he fancied, he wouldn’t have thought twice about sleeping with her.

OP,

You know it's a shitty thing for him to have said,

If you want to see him off, try having an extremely loud game of 'I packed my crack' (and in it I put a coal scuttle, a Skoda and a packet of potato cakes etc), order the biggest dildo you can find with the most obvious delivery van, whilst watching the episode of 'Benidorm' when Jacqueline fills in for Sticky Vicky on loop.

Video him running away for posterity.

Just saw your update, OP.
YABU to be calling yourself single and referring to him as an ex if that's the case.

I hope neither of you are sucking innocent people who are genuinely looking to date or for partners into all your drama. Cannot stand those people! 😡

Run, run run. He is showing huge red flags. I bet soon he will be accusing you of sleeping with workmates, friends partners etc.

If you have slept with someone else when you were not in a relationship it is absolutely none of his business and the fact that he is so focused on that it is scary.

He is not going to trust you and will get more and more paranoid. You will not be able to change him. You deserve better.

Thank you everyone, I needed to read these comments.

He makes me feel like I am overreacting.

Last time he said something similar to this and I got riled up he said "sensitive cteevee strikes again".

why did u break up in the first place

hes accusing you of cheating how do you feel about that

And so does OP.

Either he’s been sleeping around more than he admits.

or he hasn’t gotten a single bite on his insecure pecker and wants to shift that to you.

regardless he will be suspicious regardless of your answers and you’ll forever be defending your actions.

move on.

I think it's a revolting thing to say. It would really put me off someone. Yuck.

So you’re not in a relationship but he still expects monogamy and is paranoid?

that’s not good OP. And I think you know that it isn’t.

as it feels different…

well, if he meant physically? Yes, that’s badshit and actually really misogynistic!

if he meant emotionally / that you weren’t as connected? That’s more understandable IMO. But still something for actual relationships. Not for… bootycalls? Situationships? Affairs?🤔

listen to the wise @FartSock5000

He is lying about you feeling different.

He is lying to a) make you feel bad about yourself because he knows if you have low self worth/esteem, you are less likely to dump him and b) he is paranoid and jealous and controlling.

Neither are traits of a person who loves and respects you.