Or is this an unhinged thing to say?

[cteevee]

Been seeing ExDP for the past nine months.

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

Is this even a thing? Wtf?!

Vagina feels different depending on time of the month.

Sounds like the start of arguments you can never win.

Classic gaslighting.

OP I think you need to get rid. Unless he is even able to take on board how out of line he is. And genuinely wish to check his own behaviour and to start acting like a grown adult. You know if he is able to. Just from your posts i have my doubts. But do remember that no-one hould ever treat you the way he is treating you.

I haven't slept with anyone else in over a year.

There is no drama from my end.

He’s the one being sensitive though isn’t he? Sensitive, insecure and paranoid.

What a catch.

Because we are back together

Why in god's name? He sounds borderline abusive.

Honestly, the more I read these sorts of posts, the more I just love being single and think the decision I made to give up on any sort of romantic relationship with men is the absolutely correct decision.

That sounds toxic. You’re having a reasonable reaction. And he tries to make it seem as if you’re the one with the problem? That’s incredibly manipulative.

I suspect he’s an ex for a reason.

and I suspect that he should probably stay an ex.

I would recommend being really careful with contraception, so you’re not tied to this man by having a child with him…

Why?

EW!!!!! No thank you!!! He sounds disgusting, your updates are making him sound worse. You guys broke up for a reason, let him remain an ex please

The big questions are how long were you split up for, and how many people did you sleep with in that time?

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

He's paranoid about me sleeping with other people, but I haven't slept with anyone else the whole time we've been back on.

It is three fifths of five eighths of sod all to do with him what you did when you'd split up. Was the split anything to do with him being controlling by any chance?

Even if you told him to shut up about it and he did, I couldn't get past it. That he even thinks it, let alone mentions it, says there's a deeper problem with him.

That has nothing to do with you or the not-now-ex. They were split. End of.

Close to a year and one person

Does he think you are made from Playdoh? That you mould to the last user?
Will you allow him to fool you a third time?

Tell him yes, you’ve shagged half the country and he feels different too - maybe it’s because his downstairs area is much smaller than you thought it was. A year ago you thought he was a Cumberland love sausage but now you realise he’s just a chipolata.

Surely this is all you need to know : it's not going to work.

Ummmm ...... RUN! Run for the hills. That's a MASSIVE red flag. He's an ex for a reason. Don't go there.
Sounds gaslighty / insecure / paranoid etc.

I have asked him if he means looser.

He said yes, I felt a little looser but also just different and that it's hard to explain.

Honestly this sounds like the paranoid ramblings of a man who’s feeling guilty about something and now gaslighting. Dump him either way, what a gross man.

YES! SHRINKFLATION!! A term recently made known to me by a fellow Mumsnetter 🤣👌

His explanation;

It’s a point of anxiety for me you sleeping with other people. Sex felt different so I asked the question to my mind at rest. You’ve put your point across that you’re sick of it like you have done before.

I asked the question and then gave my reason as to why to try and minimise you being annoyed.

Just tell him not your tighter and he's got smaller 😂

And is he being open about how many women he slept with when you weren't together?

Thought not.

I expect you feel different because he's slept with other people!!

He sounds toxic and controlling. You should want better for yourself.

@cteevee what are his good qualities? Why are you with him? Does he make you happy? Is it just the devil you know is better than being alone? There are nice kind men out there who won’t try to make you feel worried and need to reassure them.