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Or is this an unhinged thing to say?

235 replies

cteevee · 06/07/2023 13:16

Been seeing ExDP for the past nine months.

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

Is this even a thing? Wtf?!

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Peppermintpatty24 · 07/07/2023 18:00

Jongleterre · Yesterday 13:36

Acorn Willy 😂🤣🤣....walnut whip 😂🤣

StaunchMomma · 07/07/2023 18:46

He's waving a red flag the size of a tank in front of your face and you're looking for ways to see past it, OP.

He's probably sleeping around and hence is worried you are too. He's controlling. He gaslights you. He's non-committal.

You may 'get on' most of the time but that doesn't mean the flag isn't still waving and it certainly doesn't mean you should be putting up with this shit.

How he hasn't given you the absolute ick with that crap I do not know.

MrsMarzetti · 07/07/2023 18:59

Basically he wants to know how many men you slept with while you were apart. The right answer that he wants to hear is 0 but it is ok for him to have slept with a dozen and you should just except that ! He will never forgive you if you slept with anyone.

Mumkins42 · 07/07/2023 20:08

There is something really disgusting about saying that. Yes it is unhinged, it's abusive and he sounds vile. You won't feel different at all and he knows it, even if you'd bonked half the village.
As another poster said - raise your standards. Come on.

Mrsgreen100 · 07/07/2023 20:25

Big red flag
dump his sorry arse now
sounds like a possibility he’s a narcissist

1974devon · 07/07/2023 20:37

Controlling red flag....I had an ex that constantly said the same to me! He was massively controlling in many ways..I think often they are the ones that have had other partners rather than you...keep you for themselves urgh

azlazee1 · 07/07/2023 20:53

There's a reason why he's your EX. His attitude would be a red flag for me. Has he been controlling in the past, now?? If so, I would run, not walk to the nearest exit.

Nanaof1 · 07/07/2023 21:17

Roussette · 06/07/2023 15:28

Tell him no, you aren't 'looser' but you were going to ask him if his penis has shrunk a bit because he feels 'different'

LOL! Love this!

Lozois99 · 07/07/2023 23:30

cteevee · 06/07/2023 13:16

Been seeing ExDP for the past nine months.

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

Is this even a thing? Wtf?!

Of course its not a thing. Hes fishing.

hes also insecure and weird

sack him off

Caelan2018 · 07/07/2023 23:55

Why did ye break up firstly and he sounds controlling and judgemental

QueenBitch666 · 08/07/2023 00:17

Your standards are in the gutter

CallieQ · 08/07/2023 00:35
Confused
changeme4this · 08/07/2023 01:35

What qualities does this person bring to the relationship?

Catsmere · 08/07/2023 01:49

Get away from this creep NOW.

Unknownunknowns · 08/07/2023 01:54

I don't know if you'll come back @cteevee, but I really hope you're reading the posts here! So many posters saying the same thing - get away!

MrTumblesSpottyHag · 08/07/2023 04:57

Ew. What a gross thing to say. He's a dick.

Togiveandtoreceive · 08/07/2023 06:35

Here’s what I reckon will hapoen

The op @cteevee will stay with him. Have multiple children with him. He will leave, come back, leave, come back. Rinse and repeat. Multiple mumsnet threads will be started.

It will be depressing. The children will have unsettled and unhappy childhoods. No doubt the tax payer will pick up a lot of the financing of the family. And that will be that.

IncompleteSenten · 08/07/2023 06:51

And the children will grow up thinking this is what relationships are like and go on to repeat the same in their own.

changeme4this · 08/07/2023 06:55

Togiveandtoreceive · 08/07/2023 06:35

Here’s what I reckon will hapoen

The op @cteevee will stay with him. Have multiple children with him. He will leave, come back, leave, come back. Rinse and repeat. Multiple mumsnet threads will be started.

It will be depressing. The children will have unsettled and unhappy childhoods. No doubt the tax payer will pick up a lot of the financing of the family. And that will be that.

Quite possibly but I’m noticing a trend leading up to weekends where there is some outrageous post we all get into and then nothing back from the OP apart from feeding the bears so to speak…

happy to be corrected… OP.

Coolhwip · 08/07/2023 07:16

Tell him you didn’t want to say, but he feels different too and you think his dick has shrunk.

Catsmere · 08/07/2023 07:22

Coolhwip · 08/07/2023 07:16

Tell him you didn’t want to say, but he feels different too and you think his dick has shrunk.

😂😂😂

Togiveandtoreceive · 08/07/2023 07:37

changeme4this · 08/07/2023 06:55

Quite possibly but I’m noticing a trend leading up to weekends where there is some outrageous post we all get into and then nothing back from the OP apart from feeding the bears so to speak…

happy to be corrected… OP.

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Unfortunately there are quite a few desperate and selfish women out there who put their love life above their children

and quite a few unpleasant and seedy men out there

that is reality. And I think this is just one of them and the OP doesn’t have the spine and /!or intellect to address the thread. And often happens on mumsnet

WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 08/07/2023 09:10

I’d say this was the mother of all red flags to run and do not look back.

WoosMama13 · 08/07/2023 11:50

RED FLAG!! RUN!!!
Did he end the relationship? Then ask you back?
These are the sorts of major red flag behaviours and questioning I missed/ignored/explained in his favour from my abusive ex.
He needs the gratification that he's the best man you've slept with and something to throw at you to make him the victim, that while you weren't together he stayed loyal but you slept with someone (though he did and likely many)... just get out now, save your head and heart.

NickyT64 · 08/07/2023 12:59

cteevee · 06/07/2023 13:16

Been seeing ExDP for the past nine months.

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

Is this even a thing? Wtf?!

OMG, I’ve heard of this before. Absolutely MASSIVE red flag. What was the reason for splitting in the first place? Also, he may ‘hate’ that you might have been with someone else but it’s none of his business. Please be careful. X