Or is this an unhinged thing to say?

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Been seeing ExDP for the past nine months.

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

Is this even a thing? Wtf?!

and what if you did have sex with someone else? What Will he do to you then?

Don't dig through rubbish. Find someone new, or better still, spend some time working on your self esteem.

This is a HUGE red flag that he is an abusive, controlling piece of shit, OP. Why the fuck are you back with him. Run, as fast as you can.

He is gross.
That is no way a normal thing to say, I'd be remembering he was an ex for a reason, hopefully he'll be an ex again very soon.

Here we go..abusive ex.. maybe you’re not into him as much and things have changed. He doesn’t like it but don’t read so much into it, if sex isn’t as it was then reset the dial

What a catch he is.

Oh. Then I strongly suggest you break up again.

Pronto.

Well, yes, obviously.

But the question is ….. Why……….?

Ew!!
please want better for yourself

Why are you back together ffs?

But this makes no sense - you have been back together for 9 months but it's only the most recent time you had sex that he thinks there's a difference? Of course it's batshit and "reassurance" is not going to help at all?

I mean, people who get back together after a break often have to navigate how much to share about their time apart, but this seems a bit weird and random 9 months later....

Red flag definitely.

Oh, OP. For goodness sake.

1. He is trying to say your vagina feels looser or
2. He slept with someone else and is comparing. Or
3. He is negging you whilst trying to find out if you slept with someone else

Who wants to bet he was a controlling, negging, narcissistic wanker before they broke up, too?

I'd get rid of him ASAP.
If thats his opening gambit then he's not going to improve.

Oh FFS OP

One of my past boyfriends said that to me once too. Gave me the silent treatment for days as he was convinced I'd been with someone else as it "felt different". It got worse too...he wanted photos of what I was wearing on girls nights out & didn't want me wearing skirts. He is now an ex...

Forgot to mention that after we finished I found out he had been messaging & seeing someone else whilst we was together.
Dump him.

I had this with an ex once. Always banging on that he could tell and that if felt different. Turns out he was fucking other women.

They're exs for a reason OP. Don't go back there

It's unhinged to be in a relationship with someone like this thats for sure. Why are your standards so low?

Major major major red flag. Please get out while you can.
I've heard this before and will let you know it is only the beginning of what turned into a very traumatic controlling relationship.

Run and keep running

Urgh, repulsive red flag. My first LTB.

"Nothing to do with you"
"If you don't like it we never have to have sex again"
"Probably because your dick has got so small"
"Why are you thinking of other men while we have sex?"

But you wouldn't want to say anything to upset him would you???

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Come on OP, he's a controlling, possessive arsehole.

So he's jealous (of nothing, just his over-active imagination) and suspicious? Ew.