To go for a drink with friends dad

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Iv been friends with this friend for ever and her dad has always been there for me and has messaged me a few times over the years but it's just been jokey flirty stuff nothing much of anything and he messaged me this morning to go round for a few drinks tonight. I want to go but I don't know how my friend will react.
Yanbu. Do what you want its nobody's business
Yabu. You don't cross that line with a friends dad

Nope. All the nopes. I am judging him very harshly right now.

do you find him attractive?
you seem to have the impression that something will happen between the two of you.

Yuck.

Yeah iv fancied him for years, he's always been really nice to me

Why yuck where both adults

So what’s the age difference?
TBH I’m struggling to think of extenuating circumstances to make this ok.

Have you been friends with this friend since you were a child?

The dad is a creep, and you're not much better for wanting to shag your mates dad tbh.

Depends what's more important to you - your friendship, or a potential relationship with him?

Because you can't have both, I reckon.

then go! you've been after him for years why decline something you want. your friend doesn't need to know if its just a one off casual thing x

I had a thing with a friend's dad when I was in my early 20s it was great fun while it lasted.

Ask your friend how she’d feel about you bonking her dad. If she’s fine with it, go, have fun.

I’ll bet you anything that she won’t be with it and you’ll lose her friendship if you go ahead anyway.

Ask yourself this question - are you prepared to lose your friend forever because this might very well happen. Is it worth it?

For what It's worth I think her dad is behaving very badly.

How old were you when you met him and how old are you both now?

You don't see him trying to get his end away despite risking his relationship with his daughter to be yucky?

Don't got one second believe this.

He sounds like a creep. You sound like you've got daddy issues...

I would be weirded out if I was your friend and I found out.

@GettingStuffed ive fancied loads of my friends dads im very jealous

not sure why everyone is jumped down op's throat. we've all had crushes before why is this a problem? jealousy maybe?

I think this is more normal then people realise

It's not normal to shag your friends dad.

It's definitely not normal to shag someone the same age as your kid either.

Crush away, but don't act on it 🤢

when you say you've known your friend and her dad forever, do you mean since you were a kid?

I'm 26 he's 45. He's known me since I met my friend when we where in secondary school but it was nothing weird back then

How old is he, what is the age gap, has he known you since you were a child?

Eurgh. Did he know you as a child?

If you value this friendship at all don't go. It won't survive it.

Since like 11