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To go for a drink with friends dad

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 11:55

Iv been friends with this friend for ever and her dad has always been there for me and has messaged me a few times over the years but it's just been jokey flirty stuff nothing much of anything and he messaged me this morning to go round for a few drinks tonight. I want to go but I don't know how my friend will react.
Yanbu. Do what you want its nobody's business
Yabu. You don't cross that line with a friends dad

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mexicanandafewdrinks · 28/04/2023 12:04

@Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy it is so normal. its not a huge age gap either imo go for it.

YukoandHiro · 28/04/2023 12:04

He's known you since you were eleven and you don't think the is the height of creepy?

readbooksdrinktea · 28/04/2023 12:05

Depends what you value more, your friendship or a shag with the dad. It's a bit grim. Does your friend know you've been flirting with and fancying their dad?

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 28/04/2023 12:05

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:04

Since like 11

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assuming this thread isn't a wind up then yeah, it's gross.

mexicanandafewdrinks · 28/04/2023 12:05

its not like op is going to marry the man! god all so dramatic

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:05

mexicanandafewdrinks · 28/04/2023 11:59

then go! you've been after him for years why decline something you want. your friend doesn't need to know if its just a one off casual thing x

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This 💯 it doesn't need to be a huge deal

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MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 28/04/2023 12:06

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mexicanandafewdrinks · 28/04/2023 12:06

for what its worth I slept with my friends grandad after his 70th birthday party and nothing bad happened from that.

HowDoYouDoWhatYouDoToMeIWishIKnew · 28/04/2023 12:06

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:04

Since like 11

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Do you think it's normal for someone to watch a child grow up, a child the same age as theirs, then want to shag them?

It's not normal at all.

You're going to throw a friendship away for a creepy pervert who will chuck you the second a younger model comes along.

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 28/04/2023 12:07

mexicanandafewdrinks · 28/04/2023 12:06

for what its worth I slept with my friends grandad after his 70th birthday party and nothing bad happened from that.

aye ya did

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what?

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mamnotmum · 28/04/2023 12:08

Absolutely a bad idea!

People will judge him badly for entering into a relationship with his daughters friend.

If you'd met as adults then it's different but when he started 'being really nice' to you you were an 11 year old child.

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You can't just accuse everyone of being a troll. But I'm happy to prove anything to mumsnet that they want

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mexicanandafewdrinks · 28/04/2023 12:08

@mamnotmum its not a relationship from what I have inferred just a one night stand

Boughtitdownthemarket · 28/04/2023 12:09

So he's known you since the age of 11? Absolutely grim.

AliceOlive · 28/04/2023 12:09

Are you lacking in male attention?

You’ll regret it down the road. Probably lose the friend, realize it’s pathetic and gross of him. Feel gross about it, too.

I am not saying this out of judgement, just thinking about stupid decisions I made. It won’t raise your self-respect.

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:10

mamnotmum · 28/04/2023 12:08

Absolutely a bad idea!

People will judge him badly for entering into a relationship with his daughters friend.

If you'd met as adults then it's different but when he started 'being really nice' to you you were an 11 year old child.

When I say really nice I don't mean in a pervy way I had a bad childhood and he was one of the few adults there for me

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Scalessayeek · 28/04/2023 12:10

Speaking as someone who’s dad dated a 19 year old when I had just turned 17, this is gross. And I didn’t know her!

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DonnaBanana · 28/04/2023 12:10

Harry styles was only 15 when i first saw him on telly and I fancy him now but it’s not creepy if you’re both adults now so fill your boots I say

IhearyouClemFandango · 28/04/2023 12:10

Why ask?

I repeat my first comment. Nope nope nope. And I am judging him (and increasingly you) right now.

SorePaw · 28/04/2023 12:11

mexicanandafewdrinks · 28/04/2023 12:05

its not like op is going to marry the man! god all so dramatic

She was ELEVEN when he first knew her, it's his daughters friend. Any decent man would think of her more as family not fuckable.

But I'm guessing 'no humans will be hurt in the making of this thread'

BillyNoM8s · 28/04/2023 12:11

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:10

When I say really nice I don't mean in a pervy way I had a bad childhood and he was one of the few adults there for me

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That's precisely what makes it so inappropriate.