To go for a drink with friends dad

[Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy]

Iv been friends with this friend for ever and her dad has always been there for me and has messaged me a few times over the years but it's just been jokey flirty stuff nothing much of anything and he messaged me this morning to go round for a few drinks tonight. I want to go but I don't know how my friend will react.
Yanbu. Do what you want its nobody's business
Yabu. You don't cross that line with a friends dad

I don’t think that you understand how obviously vulnerable you are and how you’re quite clearly in self destruct mode and that most of us can all see it, while you’re closing your eyes and sticking your fingers in your ears.

Your life is in chaos. You have significant mh issues, SS are involved with your children, you’ve said about the police knocking on your door every other day. And I can completely see why your life is like this. You’ve had a shit start to life, with shit parents. But what this means is that you can’t see that none of what you’re doing is normal or healthy. This is not a good man. Good men do not flirt with their daughter’s friends. They certainly don’t sleep with them then boot them out the next morning because they’ve got things to do. He’s a sleaze and he has used you. And we can all see that, whereas you can’t.

I hope your CPN is able to offer you some support because you’re desperately in need of it. This is not what life has to be like.

Sounds like he's been grooming you. I would keep well away. No way a man who's known you since you were a child and now wants to have sex with you is decent. It might be hard for you to see that though as groomers are very good manipulators.

Ru OK OP?

I'm ok thankyou I was put on a s136 but been let go now got my cpn coming this afternoon

What happened that you were under a S136?

I hope the cpn is helpful as you need some support.

I od, ty we get on OK she's alright

This is what everyone’s concerns are, @Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy. If you’re currently in a headspace where you are being put under an S136, you are NOT in a headspace where you can make truly consensual decisions about who you have sex with, and when.

You’re currently very vulnerable, and for someone who wants to protect/look after you, having sex with you should be the LAST thing on their mind.

Someone who wants to protect and look after you, should be asking if you need anything. Help with your children/grocery shopping/lifts to GP etc. NOT secretly inviting you over, giving you alcohol, and having sex with you.

I know its fine I won't be seeing him again

I am really glad you are getting some help, you seem so vulnerable. Do you have anyone in your life who can help support you right now? I'm glad you have realised that man didn't have your best interests at heart. Please take care.

I'm glad you're getting help. Remember if this thread isn't helping you, ask MN to delete it.

Sorry to hear this, hope all goes well with the cpn

Sending you love OP! You deserve to be well.

Ah love, I'm sad for you. Not because I think he was an appropriate choice for you by any means, but because you trusted him in more ways than one and he has manipulated and taken advantage of you.

I get the impression this is not unusual for you, and I really hope that you get the support you need to be happy and well.

Sorry to read about your S136. Please take some time out to really work on yourself. Exercise, eat well, read, listen to podcasts and do things good for your soul. Put yourself and your kids first over any relationship for the time being. I wish you luck op x

Oh no OP what happened?

You can DM me anytime if you need to talk

I'm sorry OP. If you ever need to talk my inbox is open. I can't imagine what you've been through and it's a testament to your own courage that you are engaging with medical services and staff. I think people should be a little kinder and walk a day in your shoes. I can't imagine having no family. You're going to get through this. 💐💐

Thankyou so much for your kind comment ❤