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To go for a drink with friends dad

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 11:55

Iv been friends with this friend for ever and her dad has always been there for me and has messaged me a few times over the years but it's just been jokey flirty stuff nothing much of anything and he messaged me this morning to go round for a few drinks tonight. I want to go but I don't know how my friend will react.
Yanbu. Do what you want its nobody's business
Yabu. You don't cross that line with a friends dad

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Softoprider · 28/04/2023 12:20

Do this and you will lose a friend OP

GoodChat · 28/04/2023 12:21

He's known you since you were 11 years old. This is gross, OP. When did you start fancying him? When did he start fancying you?

If this is real, you've got some serious daddy issues to work out.

Pinkdelight3 · 28/04/2023 12:21

I think you not having a dad and having a bad childhood explains a lot about why you'd consider this. Your barometer is off and you've no idea if he had pervy intentions or not when he was being 'really nice' to you from 11 upwards. Go for someone else. This is a can of worms not worth opening.

readbooksdrinktea · 28/04/2023 12:21

NashvilleQueen · 28/04/2023 12:20

Did he know you as a child?

Op says from age 11

NashvilleQueen · 28/04/2023 12:21

Sorry I should have RTFT. It's 100% a no from me. He's crossing all sorts of boundaries and I'm sure your friend would be mortified.

GoodChat · 28/04/2023 12:22

FWIW OP, I'm a year older than you and met my best friend at the same age. If she shagged my dad I'd think he was a dirty perv and she was an absolute bitch.

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 28/04/2023 12:22

Are you happy for your friend to never speak to you again?

Because that's a real risk, and if you are, then you're not a very good friend

JorisBonson · 28/04/2023 12:22

Didn't you recently shag your mates ex at a party?

Sarahconnor1 · 28/04/2023 12:23

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:23

GoodChat · 28/04/2023 12:21

He's known you since you were 11 years old. This is gross, OP. When did you start fancying him? When did he start fancying you?

If this is real, you've got some serious daddy issues to work out.

Iv always fancied him but he's not crossed any lines when I was a child

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MorrisZapp · 28/04/2023 12:23

What's left after shagging someone's grandad?

SooninBrisbane · 28/04/2023 12:24

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Classy

NashvilleQueen · 28/04/2023 12:24

He doesn't want to go for dinner or on a date. He wants her to go to his house. If you don't think that's for sex then you're deluded.

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Mochudubh · 28/04/2023 12:24

Is his name Rolf?

Portandlemonade · 28/04/2023 12:25

Too big an age gap unless you are both after a fling.

Regardless of if it's a friend's dad or any bloke that age.

He'll be chuffed to bits to bag a 26 year old but you need to give your head a wobble.

GoodChat · 28/04/2023 12:25

Iv always fancied him but he's not crossed any lines when I was a child

You've fancied him since you were a child and he's 'always been there'. Do you think there could be an element of grooming there?

Tourmalines · 28/04/2023 12:25

HowDoYouDoWhatYouDoToMeIWishIKnew · 28/04/2023 12:20

I wouldn't date him or want anything serious I was just meaning a bit of fun. I don't think its anything serious for him either

But I like him its not just a random one night stand I do actually think a lot of him

Which is it?

Exactly this . You are contradicting yourself. You are in for heartbreak, for you and your friend.

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:25

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Wtaf is posting my old posts got to do with anything yes I have bpd, yes I had a fucked up childhood but it doesn't mean I'm always the one to blame for everything

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diamondpony80 · 28/04/2023 12:25

The age gap isn't that big a deal, but the fact that it's a friends dad, and one who has known you since you were a vulnerable 11 year old child, that's a massive no. Highly inappropriate to even consider it. It's okay to fancy someone but you don't have to act on it.

NotAnotherBathBomb · 28/04/2023 12:25

Creepy AF

CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop · 28/04/2023 12:25

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:14

I don't have a dad so couldn't answer

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 28/04/2023 12:26

GoodChat · 28/04/2023 12:25

Iv always fancied him but he's not crossed any lines when I was a child

You've fancied him since you were a child and he's 'always been there'. Do you think there could be an element of grooming there?

No it wasn't like that at all

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NotAnotherBathBomb · 28/04/2023 12:26

What in the Emanuel Macron is this shit

drpet49 · 28/04/2023 12:27

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You already have form for sleeping with your friends ex and now you want to snag you friends dad.

Get some self respect OP, you got serious issues.

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