Boyfriend cancelled night away because he feels sick..aibu?

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I booked a nice hotel a couple of hours away from home for tonight and paid for train fares as a little valentines treat.
Altogether cost around £250
It's been booked for a month.
Anyway it gets to today and he says "babe I feel so sick I can't go away -my back is aching and I've got a blocked nose"
Okay
So I say can we not just go -even if we just go to hotel and enjoy the room.
He refused
So that money is Wasted
Also I booked a bottomless brunch and the no show fee is £20

Anyway trains gone now so we have missed it
I'm in living room and he's watching tv in bed

Aibu to be annoyed ?

Is he hungover?

No not hungover
I had a cold and I think maybe he's coming down with that

He can't help it if he's ill.

Why didn't he just take some Nurofen or something and go?

Does seem a waste. Can you drive there with a friend instead?

He hasn't exactly got a leg hanging off
He has a blocked nose and feels sickly because he has a bit of a cold.

You should have gone anyway, tried to find a friend last minute. If he's actually unwell then that can't be helped but i get why you're distracted.

@Hungrycaterpillarsmummy unfortunately too short notice for anyone to sort childcare

go anyway, I would

I’d be annoyed! Went a pre booked hotel with a raging UTI once, just sat in the room and drank copious water and cranberry juice but was still nice to just be somewhere else ha! Men!

Oh come off it, he's sick!

Train journey and hotel when you just want to curl up in your own bed with your own home comforts? Are you really that bloody insensitive?

I would have text a friend, mam or sister and asked if they want to come.

You should have gone by yourself. Silly to waste the money

Why didn't you just go?

Go on your own

Will he reimburse you ?

I'd have gone with a mate or even by myself - I did that once when my then boyfriend had flu. He actually did have flu but I so was angry and disappointed (it was for Christmas!), I couldn't bear to be near him. I suspect I was being unreasonable 😂

Well personally I think it’s a bit shit of him. He could have still come along and enjoyed the night away . I am assuming he didn’t contribute financially to it so the loss is all yours?

I didn't really fancy going alone and just sitting in the hotel by myself or going for bottomless brunch on a Saturday alone. Pointless

It's only a cold, he definitely should've made the effort. If it was flu then fair enough. It sounds to me like he wasn't that bothered about going

He was at work yesterday with it so it's deffo not the flu.
No he won't reimburse me for it at all

Id have gone anyway. Night alone in a hotel is bliss.

I'd LOVE a night away on my own!!

He sounds like a child wanting to skip school.

Or an adult phoning in sick - back ache, a runny nose and feeling sick don't usually go together.

He just doesn't want to go.

If a woman posted on here saying she felt too ill to go on a planned night away and her DP was demanding she "reimburse" him she'd be told to LTB.