Boyfriend cancelled night away because he feels sick..aibu?

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I booked a nice hotel a couple of hours away from home for tonight and paid for train fares as a little valentines treat.
Altogether cost around £250
It's been booked for a month.
Anyway it gets to today and he says "babe I feel so sick I can't go away -my back is aching and I've got a blocked nose"
Okay
So I say can we not just go -even if we just go to hotel and enjoy the room.
He refused
So that money is Wasted
Also I booked a bottomless brunch and the no show fee is £20

Anyway trains gone now so we have missed it
I'm in living room and he's watching tv in bed

Aibu to be annoyed ?

Wow

He's a prick

I would have definitely gone on my own. No interruptions room to myself? Bliss man.

Another vote for go alone. Sounds amazing.

Loving all the posts from people blaming the OP for wasting a chunk of change like that because poor man's got a sniffle.

This place has gone well weird lately.

I'd go on my own too! Out of interest what's he like normally? Flaky? Inconsiderate? If so I'd be annoyed (but probably wouldn't have bothered booking it). If not then he probably does feel really shit!

That sounds like heaven to me! I'd have gone alone and enjoyed myself. He can't help hes ill 🤷🏻‍♀️

You were a bit silly to not have just gone on your own. tbh. What a waste of money and a shame to miss out on enjoying something perfectly well just for yourself. Who cares whether or not you had a man along to 'complete' you??

Can't help it if he's poorly. Obviously he's not right if he's turned down a weekend away.

You could of gone without him so YABU.

What was nice about it?!

Sorry you're missing your lovely Valentine's trip. You sound very thoughtful and generous. Does he do stuff like this for you?

Reasonable for him to cancel and not spread germs (not just to you, but hotel staff, others you may meet). Reasonable to be upset or disappointed. Unreasonable for him not to offer some of the cost you lose.

Both of you stupid enough to fall for the hype and extra expense of Valentine's 'weekend'.

What a cunt

Flaky as fuck.

That would give me the ick.

How long has been your boyfriend ?

I’d be raging and would have gone by myself. Take a lemsip and step up ffs!

Go, now, by yourself. Just get a different train. Read a book, order room service. Treat yourself not some ungrateful tuss.

If he’s really poorly he isn’t BU. Do you think he just didn’t want to go and that’s why you’re annoyed?

I definitely would have gone alone and had a brilliant time, but I enjoy my own company.

But if it was reversed it would be 'omg how can he put pressure on you like that, of you're sick you're sick, is he always this unreasonable, that would be a red flag'

He is sick, I would just go myself and enjoy it

Last Saturday I felt like that.
I did a Covid test because DM is CEV.
Bright pink positive.
I've been in bed for the thick end of a week.

If he feels like I did last week, I'd want to be on my own bed.

Could you catch a later train? I would absolutely go alone/take my mum etc.

Call the restaurant and say you would like to cancel as your BF has covid symptoms and you don’t want to infect other patrons. They might wave the no show fee as it’s in advance.

If this was the other way around, everyone would be kicking off that the woman wasn’t being allowed time to be ill, the man was being unreasonable etc.

He’s ill, doesn’t feel up to it and it’s just one of those things. YABU

Did you discuss it with him before he booked it?

Honesty a night away from home is not fun for me, I prefer being at home with all my stuff and I feel safer when I'm in my own home. Maybe he didn't want to go but didn't want to hurt your feelings? Or maybe he is genuinely ill and just wants to stay home. Why on earth would he reimburse you? It's not his fault he's ill and if a husband came on here talking about his wife being ill I suspect the responses would be very different.

These things happen op. I'm sorry you're disappointed but it doesn't sound like it's your partners fault.

So he's in bed feeling unwell - does he do this often for trivial ailments or is this out of character?

You know him and if it's out of character then clearly he's not up to it.

If I was feeling unwell enough to stay in bed then the last thing I'd want to do it be hopping on a train.

This. Always a massive double standard on here.

People are such arseholes about sickness.

I have a cold today. I felt rotten yesterday but went to work and got through the day. Had a shit night’s sleep and if anyone told me I had to go away for a fun weekend I’d tell them to get stuffed.

Shit happens.