AIBU?
To be offended by DH gagging at my breast milk?!
boobinandgroovin · 05/02/2023 18:58
1 week old was feeding and some milk was running out the sides of his mouth, he looked totally milk drunk and cute and I said aww, so my husband looked over and gagged when he saw the milk. I asked what that was about and he just said it's so weird that that's come from you
Last night baby pulled off the breast and my let down was squirting everywhere and I had nothing to grab no muslin so I just grabbed the only thing I had which was a glass and let it go in there. I went to tip it down the sink and he started dry heaving and saying no why is your milk in there.
I told him today I find it quite hurtful and he said that he doesn't mean anything by it and is fully supportive of me breastfeeding but it just makes him gag. There's going to be milk dribble and leaks and milky sicks I don't need him gagging all the time and making me feel disgusting just for feeding my child. He's saying I'm over reacting and it's just a reaction he can't control. AIBU?!
Sukisal · 05/02/2023 19:02
He is being daft, but if I’m honest, I never thought milk drunk was cute at all. I didn’t like the smell of breast milk or the dribbling.
he doesn’t need to be making a performance out of it, and the gagging is daft. But maybe don’t make a habit of getting him to look directly at the milk drunk thing?
EL8888 · 05/02/2023 19:03
Dacadactyl · 05/02/2023 19:02
He sounds immature in the extreme.
What on earth does he think your breasts are for? Honestly, he's ridiculous.
They are for his gratification obviously! Not for the function they were originally designed for
Sorry to hear this. He sounds rude and immature, over-reacting at random things
MrsTerryPratchett · 05/02/2023 19:05
Men have spent their entire life's being told that breasts are solely sexual, belong to them and anything else is weird. It's just entitlement and it's really sad.
Since his penis's other job is to urinate, and that's vastly more disgusting that feeding a child, I'd point out that you put up with that.
NuffSaidSam · 05/02/2023 19:05
Surely gagging is a reflex! Or you think he's putting it on?
If it's a reflex then he's right that he can't control it. If he's doing it deliberately then he sounds like a complete idiot.
All sorts of things make people gag, it's not really logical/thought out.
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