To be offended by DH gagging at my breast milk?!

[boobinandgroovin]

1 week old was feeding and some milk was running out the sides of his mouth, he looked totally milk drunk and cute and I said aww, so my husband looked over and gagged when he saw the milk. I asked what that was about and he just said it's so weird that that's come from you

Last night baby pulled off the breast and my let down was squirting everywhere and I had nothing to grab no muslin so I just grabbed the only thing I had which was a glass and let it go in there. I went to tip it down the sink and he started dry heaving and saying no why is your milk in there.

I told him today I find it quite hurtful and he said that he doesn't mean anything by it and is fully supportive of me breastfeeding but it just makes him gag. There's going to be milk dribble and leaks and milky sicks I don't need him gagging all the time and making me feel disgusting just for feeding my child. He's saying I'm over reacting and it's just a reaction he can't control. AIBU?!

[Ncgirlseriously]

Make the same noise the next time he pulls his trousers down.

[THisbackwithavengeance]

Agree with those who said from now on start gagging at his slimy, sour tasting semen.

How dare he actually gag? He might secretly find it a bit weird if he's never seen a woman bf before up close but to actually gag like he's swallowed shit...

Tell him to grow the fuck up.

[chloew2000]

My fiance thinks it's wierd that milk can come out your breast too but I can't understand your partner's reaction to it. I understand if something grosses you out but you can stop yourself from dramatically gagging like that. He's the one overreacting to just a bit of milk.

[Sausagemogg]

Bit weird comparing breastmilk to semen though.

[MissMaple82]

@FurAndFeathers

Then he needs to seek professional help because gagging at his wife and child is unacceptable

Unacceptable? Yeah because we can all control our phobias and bodily functions to what is acceptable, if only physiology were that simple!

[Cuppasoupmonster]

Semen is way more disgusting than breastmilk. I would rather swim through a pool of someone’s breastmilk than have any contact with some stranger’s semen 🤮

[cariadlet]

Does he drink cow's milk?

If so, ask him if that isn't a bit gross and weird. It's way more unnatural than a baby (or any infant mammal) drinking the milk that its own mother made for it.

[ThreeLittleDots]

because we can all control our phobias [sarcasm]

You can indeed learn to. There are very efficacious therapies out there for most phobias. I doubt this prince has any interest in doing so, however.

His WORDS aren't involuntary.

[FurAndFeathers]

@MissMaple82

Unacceptable? Yeah because we can all control our phobias and bodily functions to what is acceptable, if only physiology were that simple!

what’s your point?

you think gagging at your wife and child is acceptable and he should be left alone

i disagree and think he should seek professional help before he damages his relationship.

are you struggling with the fact I hold a different opinion to you? it is allowed you know 😂

[GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing]

@OneTC

People that do that fake gagging thing are always fucking weird drama people

This!

He’s being a complete twat anyway

[Rosscameasdoody]

@ofwarren

You should do the same for his semen. Gag and say it makes you feel sick..

Brilliant !!!

[newwings]

The sound and dribble has made me gag and gip before. Not a clue why? I've breast fed all three of my kids, stored milk in various devices etc and think it's lovely to watch that closeness.

[WhiteNoiseMoreToys]

You know what makes me gag?
when someone refers to their man-child as their husband.

Tell him to grow a pair - Also if you want to add a little petty yourself, start dry-heaving after sex at the site of his flaccid friend, or his semen.

[WhiteNoiseMoreToys]

Whoops, sight*!

[Calphurnia88]

@MrsTerryPratchett

Men have spent their entire life's being told that breasts are solely sexual, belong to them and anything else is weird. It's just entitlement and it's really sad.

Since his penis's other job is to urinate, and that's vastly more disgusting that feeding a child, I'd point out that you put up with that.

This is one of those things that once you think, you can't unthink 😳

(Good comeback though)

[PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog]

I am EBF DS and extended EBF DD and I found it weird that something so 'useful' came out of me at first tbh. We tend to be taught from a young age that bodily fluids are gross. 'Don't spit, blow nose on a tissue and throw it away, not your sleeve, cover your mouth, wash your hands after the loo ect' so maybe give him a bit longer to get his head round it, OP. You are doing a great job!

[FurAndFeathers]

@MissMaple82
does you involuntary phobia force you to say things like “it's so weird that that's come from you” And “no why is your milk in there?”

it’s a rather unusual aspect of this phobia don’t you think?

and yes I stand by my opinion that it’s an unacceptable way for him to speak to his wife when she’s making a positive contribution to their child’s well-being.

[Season0fTheWitch]

I gagged at my own milk, it's not a big deal

[BreatheAndFocus]

He’s being a twat. I bet he’s jealous of the attention your baby is getting, and irrationally angry so that everything connected to baby is somehow stupid or revolting. Obviously he must know where cows’ milk comes from and I bet he doesn’t gag at that. He’s doing it on purpose because he’s a jealous, immature little idiot and is trying to upset you.

Don’t get into a discussion or try to explain or pacify him. Tell him to leave the room and not come back until he’s grown up. Mainly, don’t let it upset you. You’re doing a natural - and amazing - thing.

[Justcallmebebes]

[silverclock222]

Your post gave me the heave never mind watching it. So what if it makes him gag- doesn't mean he doesn't live you and your child, he just doesn't like watching feeding - why is that such an issue?

[BadNomad]

It's probably like other people said, he sees breasts as sexual objects. Which makes breastmilk an unnatural discharge. He's seeing it like pus running down your baby's face/in a glass. He needs to get over himself.

[Goodread1]

🤮🤮🤮

I found your man child husband Attitude seriously repel, off putting,
Grow the fxck up..
How old. Is he?
Twattish man

[FurAndFeathers]

@silverclock222

Your post gave me the heave never mind watching it. So what if it makes him gag- doesn't mean he doesn't live you and your child, he just doesn't like watching feeding - why is that such an issue?

Did you actually read the OP and his unkind comments to her?
do you really think that’s an acceptable way to ‘support’ your partner?

some folk have a pretty low bars for decency

[Johnisafckface]

@Sukisal

He is being daft, but if I’m honest, I never thought milk drunk was cute at all. I didn’t like the smell of breast milk or the dribbling.

he doesn’t need to be making a performance out of it, and the gagging is daft. But maybe don’t make a habit of getting him to look directly at the milk drunk thing?

This.

I think he’s acting childish in front of you. But internally I would be gagging too as a I gag really easily over certain things that I can’t explain , wouldn’t verbally/physically express it though.