I just don’t want to go

[Ijustdontwantto]

Supposed to be going out for dinner with friends tomorrow and I really don’t want to go. I need an excuse …

Is it the friends or the leaving the house in the cold?

Both!

are they your friends or more his, if there is a 'his' i often swerve husbands well one in particular now
any illness that can suddenly flare up for you !!!!

What is the real reason for not wanting to go?

It’s just women - no husbands.

Real reason - I don’t like going out, feel self conscious. Also while I like them individually as a group I don’t always enjoy it.

Come down with a cold 🥶 🤧 😩

Positive covid test 😉

A few months ago this was so easy. 'not feeling quite right, waiting for a COVID test to arrive'.

Could you not turn up, and claim you thought it was on Friday or next week?

"Sorry can't make dinner tomorrow"

This

I'd go for vague apology today - just 'really sorry but something has cropped up that I need to help someone with' - it is not like letting down one person who has no other option, the group can still go ahead.

Personally I wouldn't go for positive COVID test for two reasons.

1. people are very likely to say 'oh we have all had it, you don't need to isolate any more, come anyway'
2. if you pretend to be isolating for one night then go to work etc - it looks odd.

Not worth going then! Have a cosy one.

“Sorry, I’m just not feeling it tonight” is sufficient for reasonable people but if you don’t want to be talked round and have to fib: migraine, covid, poorly DP?

Don't lie. If you lie and make an excuse they will ask you again, and it seems clear you would let them down again.
You just don't want to go out with them, so don't, and say so. They're not really your friends if you don't like seeing them and spending time with them.

Got the squits

Yabu not to appreciate more you have friends!!
Imagine if they all gave feeble excuses?
Make the effort op.

I’m crap in groups too. I don’t do them anymore! One to one meet-ups only.

Will it be nice food? I'm an introvert so i understand the desire to hibernate, but good food is a lure...

Tell them you have the shits

Don’t lie - it’s always so obvious and there’s no need.

‘Hi all - just to let you know I can’t make dinner tomorrow. Sorry and have fun!’

Another vote for 'the runs', can't really argue with that and no further explanation needed 💩💩💩

Why arrange it in the first place if you don't like these things? (I know this sounds rude, but I'm genuinely curious)

I would just say you've had a long week and you're shattered / not up for going out anymore.

Sometimes you have to make yourself go! We can't all just hibernate under a throw with a hot chocolate till March 😃

It was arranged a few weeks ago, we all try to meet up once every few months. I didn’t massively enjoy the last one though.

Agree with this 🙃