To judge them a bit?

[Judgeygem]

My friend is 30 and on paper has a life I would envy, has a gorgeous house so much so it has its own Instagram account and lots of followers, goes on nice holidays a lot, plenty of money, cute kids, always dresses nice, always has her nails done! I went to her wedding last year and it was lovely and clearly expensive but I just couldn’t get over her husband. She’s 30 and he’s 45! He is handsome and younger looking than his age but I couldn’t grasp why such an attractive vibrant women would marry someone who’s going to be an old man so soon? I saw them today and couldn’t help but judge them a bit, though they look very happy. AIBU? Why do women shortchange themselves in this way?

Maybe he can give her the nice house etc etc and that’s what she wants

Judge them for what? Having lots of money or for having a 15 year age gap?
Not jealous are we ? 🙄

We will all be old one day, 45 is far from a frail age. She isn't short-changing herself because she is marrying the person she loves. You just sound very bitter and jealous to be honest - I hope you find your own happiness soon.

YABVU. That's not that heinous an age gap at that age anyway. Some people look and act old at 50. Others are fit and attractive into their 70s,

Crazy suggestion but maybe she, you know, loves him? Why on earth would you judge someone, a friend no less, who is presumably happy with their life? Good for her tbh, sounds like she has a lovely life.

Wow. What age difference do you deem appropriate?

45? Hardly 65 is it!

He's not going to be an "old man soon"

I’m guessing you’re closer to 30 if you think a 45 year old is ‘going to be an old man soon’…

Even people as old as 45 can be loving, funny, wonderful people! Maybe she doesn’t see the age difference because she loves the person, not the number.

have a word with yourself you clown.

15 years isn't a big deal.

He's hardly going to be 80 soon. You sound pretty jealous.

WTF? "Shortchange"?!
You have to be joking, OP.

45 is really boy 'soon to be old'.

You sound young. I guess you'll reassess this when you've matured a bit lot.

Vile thread to start.

There's only one person I'm judging here and it's not the woman you're talking about.

Perhaps Love?

My husband is thirteen years older than me….. it’s not a big deal…… is it?

DH is 8 years older than me
Is that age difference acceptable to you?
Or would you judge us too?

I'm not far off 45 and don't consider myself to be barrelling towards old age! YABU and sound very jealous!

Strange that you know so much about this ‘friend’ yet you only met her husband at their wedding. Or is this an Instacrush?

He is only 45. He is not going to be "an old man soon".

Maybe she loves him - ever think of that.

Tell you what though I am judging you for your ridiculous and shallow OP

Why do you see it as shortchanged? They clearly have a lovely life together, and tbh 45 isn’t that old! My husband is 9 years older than me and he was a breath of fresh air after being married to a younger man. Age really is just a number..

45??

Have you made a typo?

Look at op"s name....
a troll thread methinks...

This is exactly what I thought.

You do sound bitter and maybe when you find that one person that makes you happy you may change your opinion.

I'm not sure she would class you as a friend if she read this, I'm sure I most definitely wouldn't

👆🏻What she said

hahaha what?? Are you sure you consider her a friend? Sounds like you’re desperate to find something to judge her on! 45 isn’t ancient ffs, and if she’s happy why aren’t you happy? Maybe your green eyed monster needs a talking to.