To judge them a bit?

[Judgeygem]

My friend is 30 and on paper has a life I would envy, has a gorgeous house so much so it has its own Instagram account and lots of followers, goes on nice holidays a lot, plenty of money, cute kids, always dresses nice, always has her nails done! I went to her wedding last year and it was lovely and clearly expensive but I just couldn’t get over her husband. She’s 30 and he’s 45! He is handsome and younger looking than his age but I couldn’t grasp why such an attractive vibrant women would marry someone who’s going to be an old man so soon? I saw them today and couldn’t help but judge them a bit, though they look very happy. AIBU? Why do women shortchange themselves in this way?

Perhaps they have had 35 years of happiness together? Better than being bitter and missing out.

She’s 30 and he’s 45! He is handsome and younger looking than his age but I couldn’t grasp why such an attractive vibrant women would marry someone who’s going to be an old man so soon?

I genuinely laughed when I read this.

OP, are you very young yourself? A 15 year age difference at these ages is really not very unusual. And no, 45 isn't nearly 'an old man.'

I agree with those who think the OP is very young. In my early 20s I would have found 45 old. You'll grow and mature OP.

This

What a mean spirited thread.

Even at 27 I didn’t think 45 was old!! I’ve always had friends who were lots younger or older than me, and apart from the date on their birth certificate you couldn’t really distinguish them.

How is your 60 year old boss still there? Surely he should have been put out to pasture years ago. 😉

You sure you’re not just jealous of this woman OP?? Beginning to sound like you’d rather it was you she is with & not her DH!! 🤣
Thats how ludicrous you sound.

Jealousy is a very ugly trait and you are her friend? Heck does she know how you feel? Hope not. She might be a gold digger but who cares if they are happy and apart from that it's nothing to do with you or anyone else.

I’m 60 and DH is 71. We have been married 32 years. I love him as much as ever. Still don’t think of him as an old man. He’s my DH.

Maybe he's a lovely bloke? Shallow much? Wow.

That is a big age difference imo. I'm in my 50s and just last week a friend whose husband was a lot older than her became a widow. Another who is the same age as me but whose husband is about 15 years older looks like it is her and her dad in pics.

Another friend who has been with her partner for about 8 years. They got together when she was early 20s and he was late 30s, early 40s. The age difference now is super apparent.

I think more than 6 years either way is too big an age difference.

Wow this is such a mean thing to say! My husband is 12 years younger than me and we are very happy, but I expect you'd think he had shortchanged himself! How bloody rude!

You sound really immature and young for your age OP. You will get it, once you've grown up a bit. Heaven help you if you stoop so low as to fall for an older man!

Op comes across as rather immature for a 27 year old in her attitude.

Well I'm judging you for being a bit of a c#nt.

I suspect, OP, you're consumed with jealousy so have tried very hard to find something to gloat over.

But 45 is not old and 15 years is not a massive age gap.

Try and be happy for her and you might find you yourself are happier as a result.

Wow - with friends like you age doesn’t need enemies too

I married a 40 year old when I was 29, and we are both still alive and happy 28 years later! Our kids (similar age to the OP!) have a fun and lively Dad still!

She even not age

I couldn’t grasp why such an attractive vibrant women would marry someone who’s going to be an old man so soon?

Both of the above things you've said are incredibly rude, disgusting and frankly plain vile.

I cant GRASP why this bothers you so much. Its such a WASTE of your time

Get over yourself

This is such a bizarrely jealous and judgemental post that I'm going to call creative writing here.

If this is a genuine post, mind your bloody business and worry about your own life.

Ditto.

I'm sorry for your loss, but am sure that you have wonderful memories 💐

Perhaps she looked around and realised that not many 30 year olds could provide the little things in life that she(and you) think matter. So she took a deep breath and settled for a doddering 45 year old on the verge of total senility . Don’t worry, I am sure she has made sure he has excellent life insurance for when he keels over from old age in about five minutes time.

. She’s 30 and he’s 45! He is handsome and younger looking than his age but I couldn’t grasp why such an attractive vibrant women would marry someone who’s going to be an old man so soon

An old man seriously? Hilarious.