To judge them a bit?

[Judgeygem]

My friend is 30 and on paper has a life I would envy, has a gorgeous house so much so it has its own Instagram account and lots of followers, goes on nice holidays a lot, plenty of money, cute kids, always dresses nice, always has her nails done! I went to her wedding last year and it was lovely and clearly expensive but I just couldn’t get over her husband. She’s 30 and he’s 45! He is handsome and younger looking than his age but I couldn’t grasp why such an attractive vibrant women would marry someone who’s going to be an old man so soon? I saw them today and couldn’t help but judge them a bit, though they look very happy. AIBU? Why do women shortchange themselves in this way?

Name change as knew it was judgey, obviously. Age isn’t a number when you’re 60 and they’re an OAP!

Glad you're not my friend tbh!

Eh? Why would you assume that she's shortchanging herself?
He's 45, not 70

With friends like you, OP ....

Jesus I am 45 and was thinking I would be considered old at maybe 80 not soon. My DP is 10 years younger than me and he earns more than me so he really fucked up didnt he. Please dont judge.

How is marrying someone she loves short changing herself?

She may have 50 years happiness while you are worrying about a number.

Retirement age isn't 60 and so what?

You’re in for a shock if you think you’re getting your pension at 60 😂

Age isn’t a number when you’re 60 and they’re an OAP!

Sounds like she will probably have the money to retire early with him and enjoy all their free time together.

And you just sound petty and jealous, and it’s making you weirdly fixated on the age of her husband as a way to one up her, which doesn’t even make sense.

This can't be real. I assume your partner is the absolute perfect age OP? Plus I'm over 45, didn't realise that makes me an old woman, I'm off to grab a zimmer frame and some Ralgex.

Your OP smacks of jealousy. Good luck to her.

What does this even mean? You sound judgey & unpleasant.

This is hilarious

Also, when he’s 60 she’ll be 45, so ‘nearly an old woman’ (in your view). So what’s the problem?

Oh. Only me who read this-
has a gorgeous house so much so it has its own Instagram account and lots of followers, goes on nice holidays a lot, plenty of money, cute kids, always dresses nice, always has her nails done! I went to her wedding last year and it was lovely and clearly expensive

and read it as all being about the house 😂

op

Yabu. It wouldn’t be for me. But it’s not me marrying him.

My mum and dad are the same age. Mum became disabled and dad cared for her for the last few years until she died at 66. He is fit and healthy and very active at 66 last year (67 this year)

Dad won’t need a career for a good few years, in all probability. Just like his father and much older brother didn’t. But became a carer in his 50s. How would that be different if it happened to this woman?

and this woman, knows his age. She loves him. She is a grown woman and made a choice that doesn’t impact you at all.

So don’t get what there is to judge.

You think you’re judging but in all honesty you sound insanely jealous.

You sound like a 13 year old

I’m sixteen years younger than my husband. I love him. It never occurred to me people like you were secretly judging.
Nice.

How old are you OP? 😂

You sound vile.

You're not just jealous on paper, you're jealous full stop. They've got married and have lovely children, a nice home and are happy. Who wouldn't want that for their friend?

Simply wow. Clearly they are well suited and he is not that much older TBH. Your views demonstrate more about you than them.

He's bloody 45! Hardly reaching his pension age is he?!

How is she short-changing herself, her life sounds fabulous on paper. Good for her!

You sound very jealous! 15 years isn't that big of a gap really I've seen much much worse. 45 also isn't hitting old age soon, I honestly think you need to reflect on how you are judging your friend and get rid of some of the bad energy.