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Original poster

My in laws came for early lunch at 11:30 and they are still here

399 replies

DownToTheSleighAgain · 27/12/2021 16:34

AIBU to think it is about time they pushed off?

I've fed them lunch, cheese, cake, mince pies, booze and endless cups of tea. We've 'done' presents. We've had the dull conversations about money (them) and covid (a hoax apparently). I have resisted plunging a knife into one or all of them.

I want a bath and a nice glass of wine and some P&Q. What is the etiquette for getting them gone?

OP posts:
NatriumChloride · 27/12/2021 16:35

Leave your DH to deal with them and push off to the bath!

DartmoorChef · 27/12/2021 16:35

Get your husband to kick his parents out.

SpiderFluff · 27/12/2021 16:36

Yeah just wander off and have a bath and a snooze

Original poster
DownToTheSleighAgain · 27/12/2021 16:36

If only it were that simple. He likes having them around. #weird

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PercyPiggington · 27/12/2021 16:36

On the rare occasions my in-laws come round, I actively disappear for a long bath.
Just go upstairs for an hour, come down in your pyjamas and they might get the hint.

HippeePrincess · 27/12/2021 16:37

If you’re feeling particularly rude go and run your bath and their son/daughter can entertain them for the rest of the time they’re around.
It’s not an unusual length of time to spend around family at Xmas though so you are a little unreasonable.

thing47 · 27/12/2021 16:37

How can they think it's a hoax? Do they not know of anyone who has been ill? Do they imagine every single person who has had covid is 'in' on the hoax, likewise all medical staff and every media around the world… Confused

Ionlydomassiveones · 27/12/2021 16:37

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Tulips21 · 27/12/2021 16:38

As above.
Leave Dh to deal with.
Do maybe say that you have a ' headache and need a nap' to get away though!

MindTheChristmasGap · 27/12/2021 16:38

Yabu.

Original poster
DownToTheSleighAgain · 27/12/2021 16:39

@thing47

How can they think it's a hoax? Do they not know of anyone who has been ill? Do they imagine every single person who has had covid is 'in' on the hoax, likewise all medical staff and every media around the world… Confused
They know it exists but think the fuss is totally unnecessary- so it being a big issue for society being the hoax.
OP posts:
wtfisthatspiderdoing · 27/12/2021 16:39

I wonder if your DH has the same attitude to his in laws?

DartmoorChef · 27/12/2021 16:39

Weird that he enjoys spending time with his parents?

Just go and have your bath then as you clearly don't like them anyway.

Getyourjinglebellsinarow · 27/12/2021 16:40

Just go for a bath, it's not a super long time though, 5hrs.

gluenotsoup · 27/12/2021 16:40

It’s not that long! They probably wanted to see you and enjoy their time with you .
You are being a bit of a grinch.

Stiffcondomhat · 27/12/2021 16:40

It's been lovely seeing you, but expect you'll be wanting to get on your way now hand coats to in laws
If met with any resistance:
I'm sorry I am going to have to kick you out tinkly laugh, I've got things to do

Magnited · 27/12/2021 16:41

Go into the kitchen. Come back into the room naked with the word - KILL - smeared across your breasts in tomato ketchup while holding a long carving knife between two hand pointed to the floor. Stand in the doorway and say:

"When He says, I will take people with me".

Original poster
DownToTheSleighAgain · 27/12/2021 16:41

@Magnited

Go into the kitchen. Come back into the room naked with the word - KILL - smeared across your breasts in tomato ketchup while holding a long carving knife between two hand pointed to the floor. Stand in the doorway and say:

"When He says, I will take people with me".

🙌
OP posts:
Magnited · 27/12/2021 16:42

It was the right solution for my in-laws.

campion · 27/12/2021 16:43

Imagine wanting to relax with your family at Christmas. Weirdos.

Maybe they like you more than you like them?

moochies · 27/12/2021 16:45

4 hours is my limit.

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 27/12/2021 16:45

Turn the heating right down...

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 27/12/2021 16:45

Not inlaws, but aunty/uncle who are intolerable. I had a little snooze on the sofa.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 27/12/2021 16:46

@PercyPiggington

On the rare occasions my in-laws come round, I actively disappear for a long bath. Just go upstairs for an hour, come down in your pyjamas and they might get the hint.
How rude.
thing47 · 27/12/2021 16:47

They know it exists but think the fuss is totally unnecessary- so it being a big issue for society being the hoax.

I see. Well I wouldn't want to spend 5 minutes with people that thick, let alone 5 hours tbh.

Though I agree with PPs that the length of time isn't really the issue, it's the fact that you don't like them.