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To hate working with women

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HousethatChunkbuilt · 14/12/2021 18:27

I am a feminist and I think women are incredible. I am proud at all we achieve, having babies, periods, going through the menopause, the constant harassment, fear of violence, discrimination, sexism... the list goes on.
HOWEVER I find it incredibly difficult to work in all female teams. I have nearly always worked in all female environments in entry level jobs.
The bitchiness is unreal. Everyday comments lead to tears, meltdowns, refusal to come in. This has happened in every single workplace. The only place I haven't had this is in a shop where it was mostly men and other (quite mature) women. Oh and one place where we were all different nationalities, is cattiness a British thing?
It just takes so much time and effort navigating the various rifts, arguments, feuds and rivalries. I honestly think we'd rule the world if we could get rid of this shit.
I'm quite matter of fact and get frustrated that this taking up so much time!

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 14/12/2021 18:28

This has happened in every single workplace.

What do those workplaces have in common?

Isseywith3witchycats · 14/12/2021 18:28

Both of my jobs are female predominant teams and i find that my work colleagues on the whole are very nice people to work with

CheesyFootballsAreEvil · 14/12/2021 18:29

Are you a woman?
Do you act like this?

JurgensCakeBabyJesus · 14/12/2021 18:29

I work in a profession rather than 'entry level roles' , and it's mainly women..I don't recognise the behaviours you describe, maybe this isn't admit the sex of your team mates, but about the environment/nature of the work

mynameiscalypso · 14/12/2021 18:29

There's just as much (metaphorical) willy-waving from men in the workplace in my experience

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 14/12/2021 18:30

Really?

I work in an all women environment and I find it very loving and supportive.

AFS1 · 14/12/2021 18:30

This isn’t representative of my experience working in all-women environments.

Seafog · 14/12/2021 18:30

Those are some weird places you've worked.

I have worked in many different environments and find there are always some that don't get on with others, it is just as likely to be a guy that no one gels with as it being a woman.

CustardCreamsAndMintTea · 14/12/2021 18:30

I work with a huge majority of women. This has never happened. What industry are you in???

Corbally · 14/12/2021 18:30

That’s literally never been my experience of working with women.

Thegreencup · 14/12/2021 18:30

I've worked in mainly male and mainly female environments. My experience is that the bitching, moaning and complaining is universal and confined to one specific gender. If its not Sandra complaining that Barbara's top offends her eyes, Liam is complaining that Kevin's used the last of the milk and making a spreadsheet to determine who eats most biscuits.

And yes that actually did happen.

DidgeDoolittle · 14/12/2021 18:30

I have always worked with other women and I have never come across this.

username1293948 · 14/12/2021 18:30

@PurpleDaisies

This has happened in every single workplace.

What do those workplaces have in common?

😂🤭
hugr · 14/12/2021 18:31

Yeah not my experience either. Maybe it's you?

DorothyZbornakIsAQueen · 14/12/2021 18:31

@PurpleDaisies

This has happened in every single workplace.

What do those workplaces have in common?

Yes. There seems to be a common denominator here 😂.

I love working with women of all ages and always have. I have some fabulous, supportive, kind, friendly female colleagues.

bettys9thleg · 14/12/2021 18:31

I'm in a nearly all female team (1 man) and it's a lovely supportive atmosphere. We big each other up, commiserate when our kids are sick. Help each other. I know the sort of atmosphere you're describing but I have found it's happened more in mixed teams then all female ones. Obvs just my experience there though.

UltraVividLament · 14/12/2021 18:32

I think it's probably not very sensible to extrapolate a general position from your own specific and limited experience.

I've never had this experience when working with women or men in any of the variety of workplaces that I've worked in over more than 25 years in employment.

Perhaps there is another explanation for this behaviour other than the sex of your work colleagues? Perhaps it's their age or the industry you've worked in. Or some other common denominator.

Gothisway · 14/12/2021 18:33

Sounds like it’s the kind of environment you work in.
I’m in a female dominated profession and this does not happen. We are professionals.

Rover83 · 14/12/2021 18:33

I'm a nurse so work in mainly female environments, there can be some cliques and this can lead to some people feeling left out but I've never noticed any bitchiness

WorraLiberty · 14/12/2021 18:33

I agree with a PP, it could be just you OP.

EmpressaurusWitchDoesntBurn · 14/12/2021 18:33

How weird. My department’s 75% women, including the head, her deputy & my line manager, & it’s the best team I’ve ever been part of.

TeeBee · 14/12/2021 18:34

I work in a female dominant industry and that's not my experience at all! I find women harder working, more flexible, more creative than working with men. I stamp down on bitchiness. Wouldn't tolerate it.

Holly60 · 14/12/2021 18:35

@PurpleDaisies

This has happened in every single workplace.

What do those workplaces have in common?

Oh god you are right. Women are not catty at all Hmm
corlan · 14/12/2021 18:36

Not my experience working in predominantly female workplaces either.

HolidayTime2021 · 14/12/2021 18:36

Are you a male feminist /

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