To hate working with women

[HousethatChunkbuilt]

I am a feminist and I think women are incredible. I am proud at all we achieve, having babies, periods, going through the menopause, the constant harassment, fear of violence, discrimination, sexism... the list goes on.
HOWEVER I find it incredibly difficult to work in all female teams. I have nearly always worked in all female environments in entry level jobs.
The bitchiness is unreal. Everyday comments lead to tears, meltdowns, refusal to come in. This has happened in every single workplace. The only place I haven't had this is in a shop where it was mostly men and other (quite mature) women. Oh and one place where we were all different nationalities, is cattiness a British thing?
It just takes so much time and effort navigating the various rifts, arguments, feuds and rivalries. I honestly think we'd rule the world if we could get rid of this shit.
I'm quite matter of fact and get frustrated that this taking up so much time!

It’s not about female or male, it’s about the culture of individual workplaces. I’ve worked in female only and mixed sex places, all had their own culture, some good, some bad. Some men can be unpleasant in the workplace , they just tend to be more upfront and cocky about it.

My entire career has been in predominantly female Teams, no issues as mentioned in the opening post.

Can I ask what industry you're in @HousethatChunkbuilt?

I have worked in female only teams and from 18 to 20 was the only female in a male team (factory shop floor environment) and I found the men no less bitchy then the female only teams I have worked in over the last 28 years. In fact I would say the men were cruel in ways women were not.

As you seem to be the common factor in these bitchy teams have you thought it could be you?

I love working with mostly women. I'm heard, I'm supported and there's no macho bullshit.

It's quite noticeable how much the very few male colleagues still try dominate when they get the chance.

No, there's none of this in my department.

I spent nearly 10 years working in an all female team in a large university library. I don't ever recall any tears, tantrums or childish behaviour.

This is not my experience either. My team are all female and lovely. We did have a couple of troublemakers in the past, but one left and the other got made redundant.

@PurpleDaisies

This has happened in every single workplace.

What do those workplaces have in common?

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They're all located under bridges?

I've been working 30 years and never experienced this. I've met crap people of both sexes and worked on all female projects teams where we rocked it. Sounds like poor management to me.

I'm a business owner employing a majority male staff -only three females. I can say without a doubt men are no different and just as complex as women. I currently have two who have fallen out for some inexplicable reason (neither can give a reason why) and the bitchiness is unreal. I've had no problems with my female staff. I previously worked in an all male environment which was incredibly bitchy and gossipy and two faced. Unfortunately, spending the majority of your day with people you wouldn't necessarily choose as friends does often lead to butting heads and hurt feelings. I can't think of anyone I know who hasn't had a work related fall out or issue with a colleague at some point, even a minor one.

I'm a nurse who works with lots of other nurses and midwives . 99% female environment

I don't see this at all
Some people are arses no matter their gender
Most are wonderful

I don't think you're unreasonable. I've worked with mostly men during my career but my preference is always for a team of mixed sexes and different personalities, as groups of men can be just the same!

I don't see this at all reflected in my workplace!

Do you think you may be the problem OP?

I am a feminist and I think women are incredible

This sentence doesn't seem to fit in with the rest of your op

Where the hell are you working?!

I agree and would never work in a female environment again.

All the people saying do you think you may be the problem, kind of yes. If you're younger and attractive then some women will try to bring you down. Not all, and I've worked with some wonderful supportive women, but the fact is there are some that will make your life hell.

Not my experience of working in predominantly female workplaces (primary schools) for the last 23 years.

However! Many women I have worked with have been VERY open about prefering to work for a male headteacher than a female headteacher. Based on experience, I agree with them.

Some people are difficult. Some people are not.

Some work places seem to encourage people to be difficult, so people leave apart from the difficult people who quite like it.

I have managed people for over 20 years and there's just as many difficult men as women in my experience.

Not sure a feminist can say 'I don't like women, probably British women' and remain a feminist

I’ve worked with only women once and didn’t really like it. I much prefer a mixed team.

I've worked in all female teams and haven't found this at all.

I've mostly found the women I've worked with to be nice people, supportive.

As a pp has said you get the odd trouble maker and they usually move on.

I've also worked with a few sexist pigs and some lovely men.

If you're younger and attractive then some women will try to bring you down.

Ok bab 😂

I’ve only ever worked with women in my entire life ( I’m 58)

Theyve made me cry with laughter, hugged me when I’m down and stayed as lifelong friends when I’ve left. I’ve never ever worked anywhere ‘bitchy’

@ABCeasyasdohrayme

I am a feminist and I think women are incredible

This sentence doesn't seem to fit in with the rest of your op

Maybe she meant 'I am a feminist and I think women are incredible, except the British'? 🙄