Aibu to be absolutely furious at friend

[JustLyra]

Four of us in a friend group.

We all do nice birthday presents for each other, and have done for 10+ years.

One of the group is having a tough time and is in the middle of moving house so we decide to do a small gift and a voucher so that it’s easier with our move.
Two of us also made clear we felt a voucher was a better option atm because friend is going to have to lot a house from top to bottom rather unexpectedly the other agreed. They offered to take the money and sort the voucher and a nice card.

They then decided, without any discussion, that there was “too big a risk” our friend would buy practical and boring stuff and not treat themselves.

So they’ve bought a fucking Costa Coffee voucher. Basically so they can only buy coffees and cakes.

Aibu to think that that’s completely out of order, and a shit present

[50ShadesOfCatholic]

@PlanktonsComputerWife

I think you misunderstood @Madamum18 post. She was highlighting the madness of a previous post.

Some of us think this thread is vicious.

[JustLyra]

I appreciate all the different views. I don’t think I’ve been remotely vicious, but each to their own.

Sadly a long friendship is completely ruined. Not the actual action, although I’ll admit I would have struggled to forgive as to me she stole from all three of us, but she’s tried to justify it now in a way that’s just unforgivable to me.

It’s really upsetting as I don’t have a large friends ground and the four of us met when times were tough for all of us. It’s really sad that this has happened when one of us is in the worst possible position. Life sucks sometimes, but people survive much worse so we’ll all bounce through it somehow.

[JustLyra]

Group not ground

[Flowers500]

@JustLyra

I appreciate all the different views. I don’t think I’ve been remotely vicious, but each to their own.

Sadly a long friendship is completely ruined. Not the actual action, although I’ll admit I would have struggled to forgive as to me she stole from all three of us, but she’s tried to justify it now in a way that’s just unforgivable to me.

It’s really upsetting as I don’t have a large friends ground and the four of us met when times were tough for all of us. It’s really sad that this has happened when one of us is in the worst possible position. Life sucks sometimes, but people survive much worse so we’ll all bounce through it somehow.

I'm so sorry, that's awful. How did she try to justify this to you? I genuinely can't imagine what she could come up with

[billy1966]

I don't think the OP has been remotely vicious.

I think she is stunned at what occurred, and very sad.

I think it IS a very sad thread.

To loose a frienship group through pulling a fast one for £50 is the most ridiculous thing ever.

A stunning lack of judgement.

[50ShadesOfCatholic]

@billy1966

I don't think the OP has been remotely vicious.

I think she is stunned at what occurred, and very sad.

I think it IS a very sad thread.

To loose a frienship group through pulling a fast one for £50 is the most ridiculous thing ever.

A stunning lack of judgement.

Nor did I say the OP has been vicious, I said the thread had been. So much blood lust out there.

I do think the OP has enjoyed the drama and gotten bogged down in being "right" over resolution.

[Madamum18]

@Madamum18

She'll have to live with what she's done for the rest of her life.

The comment She'll have to live with what she's done for the rest of her life in my earlier post was a quote from someone else, I forggot to highlight it as a quote.
My "confused" face was because I quite simply cant understand the over stated drama on this thread about a rather silly and selfish mistake that someone made, was found out about and apologised for!!! And I agree with those commenting on the viciousness of some posts on this thread!!

[Madamum18]

[quote 50ShadesOfCatholic]@PlanktonsComputerWife

I think you misunderstood @Madamum18 post. She was highlighting the madness of a previous post.

Some of us think this thread is vicious.[/quote]
Yes thankyou Plankton I did misunderstand. I agree about the viciousness. If only we were all perfect and never made a mistake, eh!!

[JustLyra]

I do think the OP has enjoyed the drama and gotten bogged down in being "right" over resolution

Enjoyed the drama?

I had three friends that I trusted and loved. One of them has stolen money from me and treated another of our friends abominably.

There’s nothing in any of this that has been remotely fucking enjoyable.

[PunishmentSnart]

It doesn't seem as you’ve enjoyed the drama at all. You very early on noticed the voucher would be of no use to your friend in need and called other ‘friend’ out on it but only once you had spoken to the other friend in the group. Seems to me you are rational and and thoughtful and birthday friend will appreciate the nee voucher and gift (and your continued friendship) very much

[DogsandCatsB4u]

Ish present
Always MnS or John Lewis vouchers she can even buy coffee and cake with those

[FastFood]

Haha that's the shittiest gift ever, sorry for your friend.
I'd be rather mad too.

[MinnieGirl]

@JustLyra

I do think the OP has enjoyed the drama and gotten bogged down in being "right" over resolution

Enjoyed the drama?

I had three friends that I trusted and loved. One of them has stolen money from me and treated another of our friends abominably.

There’s nothing in any of this that has been remotely fucking enjoyable.

I would be absolutely heartbroken.

Betrayal is always painful, but when it comes from a close friend who, in your own words, You loved and trusted, it’s devastating.

I hope you and your other two friends can move past it and continue with your close friendship.

[backtolifebacktoreality]

How are you going to explain to your friend (whose birthday it is) why you have fallen out with the friend who "bought" the vouchers"?

[JustLyra]

@backtolifebacktoreality The voucher buyer told her. It was a bid for a "it wasn't as bad as they're making out" way of doing it.

Basically everyone is extremely upset and sad and it's shit.

Birthday friend and I are going out tomorrow and will be consuming lots of wine!

[CoffeeWithMyOxygen]

The voucher buyer told her. It was a bid for a "it wasn't as bad as they're making out" way of doing it.

Ah. And I’m guessing that didn’t go the way the thief friend thought it would? I’m so sorry, she’s caused so much upset with a thoughtless attempt to be greedy.

[3luckystars]

Don’t even mention it. Honestly forget about it now and let her make her own decisions about it. You know what happened so just enjoy your day and have a great catch up!