To not want to drive 40 minutes to return a Jam Jar?

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A family member (partners side) made us all Jam for Christmas last year, lovely gift and was very nice.

They now want all the Jars back to do it again they are like Kilner Jars (just not branded I don't think) I do still have it in the random Tupperware cupboard.

I would have to drive 40 minutes to return the Jar DH thinks I should as it is thiers. I just said it was a gift and I am happy to not receive any Jam this year to avoid this. We wont see them between now and Christmas. He thinks I'm being unreasonable?

DH can't drive and there is no public transport to where they live!

Post it

Amazon them a new one

YANBU, surely the jar is part of the gift?

Tell them they're welcome to come and collect them?

Tell them you gave it to a friends Child to use as a paint holder

In the interest of family piece can you order a similar one delivered to their house as a compromise?

It was a gift.... It's weird to ask for it back. And a bit tight tbh.

Tell them they're welcome to collect it. Don't get into a back and forth.

That is bonkers.

I would give the jar back next time I saw them. Or get your DH to post it?! Probably cost less than your petrol to post it back!

I would amazon them a new one and tell them to keep their jam this year...

Agree. order them a new one.

Did they tell you at the time they wanted the jar back?

Just say you don’t have it any more or are using it for something else.

And tell your bloke if he wants to send it back he's welcome to sort that out himself.

Just tell them the jar was your favourite bit of the gift

The petrol of driving that distance outweighs the benefit of reusing the jar. Not a chance I'd do that for a bit more jam.

We had this with posh Xmas bags, I just bought a new set and returned the originals full of gifts so everyone has one and just recycles them each year. I'd be tempted to send them some on Amazon and return last years when you collect this years so you should never have this issue again.

Yanbu
Surely the jar was part of the present?

I can't believe people are telling you to order them a new jar
I'd tell them to either collect it or forget it. You won't be leaving the house with the jar.

Use the petrol money to buy yourself some locally made jam. Then everyone is happy, including the environment!

Tell them you recycled it/it smashed accidentally. Say you understand if that means you don't get jam that year.
40 minutes each way or 40 mins in total? Either way that's, what, between 3-8 quid for a jar!!!
No thanks id rather buy my own jam!

Your DH is being very unreasonable to expect you to do this when it is his family member who is asking! Let him sort it out OP. He can use any of the suggestions above (posting / getting a new one delivered from Amazon / asking family member to collect / telling family member not to worry about giving jam this year).

I would say the jar has already been reused for the school fair, so unfortunately you don't have it. It is bonkers to drive all that way to recycle a jar.

Why can't he deliver it if it's his family and he thinks it should be returned?

That's very annoying, as they're asking for it back they' should offer to collect. Are there any others being asked who are a bit nearer to you that wouldn't mind passing it on?