To not want to drive 40 minutes to return a Jam Jar?

[itsme189]

A family member (partners side) made us all Jam for Christmas last year, lovely gift and was very nice.

They now want all the Jars back to do it again they are like Kilner Jars (just not branded I don't think) I do still have it in the random Tupperware cupboard.

I would have to drive 40 minutes to return the Jar DH thinks I should as it is thiers. I just said it was a gift and I am happy to not receive any Jam this year to avoid this. We wont see them between now and Christmas. He thinks I'm being unreasonable?

DH can't drive and there is no public transport to where they live!

Tell the you’ve reused it and it’s now your husbands penis beaker. They won’t want it back then.

The Jars are not even expensive Jars they are literally £1.50 tops and this person has a 6 figure salary just dont make Jam if it is so expensive

Whatttt?!
That’s nuts.
It would cost far more in fuel and be bad for environment to return it.
The jar was surely part of the gift?

Tell them for eco reasons you cannot damage the planet to the extended needed to travel 40 mins to return it.

That's be a no from me.

Tell your DH if he really thinks it needs to be returned, he is 100% responsible for the chore and leave him to it.

If it's that precious they can come & collect it. 40 mile trip for a jam jar?! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@itsme189
A six fig salary and tight as arseoles! The jam maker sounds a bit mean.
If it was someone really struggling, I’d understand it, but six figs?
No way!

Could you pass it on to your ILs to return if you are likely to see them soon?

No way would I make a 80 minute journey for a £1.50 jam jar.

@LemonMuffins

I can't believe people are telling you to order them a new jar I'd tell them to either collect it or forget it. You won't be leaving the house with the jar.

I'm with those who would assume the jar was part of the gift, unless specified at the time it was given.

@itsme189

They messaged everyone individually asking for them back.

They've responded "I dont really want to drive all the way there, hopefully other people are more willing to return theirs or this will get expensive. And yeah I wont be making any for people who cant return it"

I DONT WANT YOUR BLODDY JAM

I just said no problem maybe let people know you need the Jar back next time.

How bloody rude! Totally spoils the idea of a lovely thoughtful homemade gift. I would now accidentally on purpose smash it when hubby wasn’t looking.

What a very rude person

@Duchess379 I posted their response to me suggesting they come to get it!

IF you want to keep the peace (fine if you don't), then why not just offer to bank transfer the £1.50 for a new one - no cost of fuel, no impact on environment ... shuts her up.

@MinnieGirl I can confirm the Jam was not worth the stress they are the type of people who I would never accept a favour from because you will pay for it 100 times over we only see them to keep DH's very old grandmother happy on Christmas

Never have I heard anything so daft! Not read the full thread, but if it hasn't already been said @itsme189 say you can't find it!

Well she can fuck off can’t she? She doesn’t really want to drive all the way there but expects you to??
Oh no. No no no.

Good responses. She hasn’t got her thinking head on about this one.

Do you really never see family to pass this on through a social meet-up?

[quote itsme189]@MinnieGirl I can confirm the Jam was not worth the stress they are the type of people who I would never accept a favour from because you will pay for it 100 times over we only see them to keep DH's very old grandmother happy on Christmas[/quote]
Definitely smash the jar…. 🤨😂

I was going to say tell them to put the jam in a food bag and you can squeeze it into the jar at your leisure. But I see it’s escalated since then.

Say that you are very happy to only receive jam in alternate years, and give it back to them this Christmas (potentially containing something home-made e.g. you could make a jam-jar's worth of Christmas Spiced cookies for less than a pound's worth of ingredients and about 15 minutes of effort if you can be arsed). My sister gave me a home-made edible gift in a nice Kilner jar the Christmas before last, and I gave the same jar back to her full of home-made chutney the following Christmas. I appreciate not everyone likes making or receiving home made things though so feel free to just not bother.

I'd post the jar back and not wrap it up very well

@TyrannysaurusXXrightshoarder

Oh, I read your title and assumed you’d gone all cockney. But no, they really do want an actual jam jar back.

@Unsuremover

I was going to say tell them to put the jam in a food bag and you can squeeze it into the jar at your leisure. But I see it’s escalated since then.

Ah ha ha. That’s funny.

Think about returning it, pick it up to look at it and ponder what a beautiful jar it is, accidentally let it slip from your fingers and watch it smash as it hits the ground.

Problem solved.

Guessing they may have made jam as gifts for eco reasons?? Which explains them wanting to reuse the same jars.

40 mins is ridiculous though, I'd post it.

“And yeah, I won’t be making for people who can’t return them.”

Oooh gutted. No special jam for people who haven’t earned it. That’s you told.