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Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum · 26/08/2021 13:04

I made a thread a couple of weeks back about me visiting the butcher in a supermarket near me and the young guy serving me saying that to his colleague in his local language (I live abroad)
He assumed I was on holiday and didn’t understand the language, I did. I was with my toddler daughter and was so humiliated and upset, I cried in the car on the way home.
Later, I sent a complaint to the head of the shop. They’ve now got back to me properly. Apparently they were able to discover who it was by speaking to other staff and he admitted it and was reprimanded, which resulted in him being fired and is now finishing his contract, so is still there legally.
I feel angry still that he was able to make me feel that humiliated, I was worried I’d possibly misheard part of it or got it wrong. Now he’s admitted it, I’m glad he’s lost his job and someone who deserves it can fill his place.
Do you think the supermarket did enough? It’s unlikely I’ll go back, which is a shame as it’s the main supermarket for special bits where we are.

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PermanentTemporary · 26/08/2021 13:05

I think you've done brilliantly to make the complaint and I think you've done enough. How are you feeling about it all now?

reallyisthisallthereis · 26/08/2021 13:06

If he has lost his job, then yes. What else would you expect them to do?
Also, he admitted it.

I would take that as a win and put it behind you.

PeskyRooks · 26/08/2021 13:06

Well they fired him I don't see what else they could have done

Lockheart · 26/08/2021 13:06

Do you think the supermarket did enough?

He's been fired, what more do you think the supermarket can do?

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 26/08/2021 13:07

He's learned that choices have consequences.

EverybodyIsInteresting · 26/08/2021 13:07

I'm not really sure what else they could have done tbh.

VictoriaBun · 26/08/2021 13:07

Yes he has been fired . I'm sorry that happened to you but what more are you expecting ?

Nowisthemonthofmaying · 26/08/2021 13:07

Well he was fired so I'm not sure what else they could have done? I think they acted correctly and I'm glad they got back to you and took this seriously. Presumably he's just finishing off his contract as they need time to recruit someone else.

wizzywig · 26/08/2021 13:07

Well done op.

ThreeWitches · 26/08/2021 13:07

As above, what more do you want? Them to publicly shame him?

Crazycrazylady · 26/08/2021 13:08

Holy Moley, He was fired ( rightly so), What else would you have had the supermarket do?

Public flogging and Tarring and feathering went out a few years ago so their options were limited..

timeisnotaline · 26/08/2021 13:08

I’m glad it worked out and they listened! What else do do you think they could do? After firing them, it’s illegal to move onto public floggings (and also quite extreme).

StarryStarrySocks · 26/08/2021 13:08

What he said was unacceptable and he was rightly reprimanded. But I can't imagine being "glad" that someone had lost his job because of me.

Samafe · 26/08/2021 13:08

I think they did even too much honestly

inigomontoyahwillcox · 26/08/2021 13:08

I think the supermarket have acted commendably. Sorry you were subjected to suck arsehole misogynistic behaviour.

DDiva · 26/08/2021 13:09

Not sure what else you were expecting. Its taught him a lesson and shown an example to their staff.

It may hold bad memories but I would try to go back at least you know he wont be there.

GreenTortoise · 26/08/2021 13:09

They have done enough and more than what some shops would do probably.

I'm sorry you were humiliated but try not to let this unpleasant man upset you anymore.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 26/08/2021 13:09

They have gone as far as they could.

I’m not sure what else they could do.

LannieDuck · 26/08/2021 13:09

It sounds as if the supermarket reacted well. What else would you have liked them to do?

The phrasing also suggests this wasn't his first reprimand (the reprimand led to this firing... which is unlikely if it was his first.)

Lockheart · 26/08/2021 13:09

Perhaps a pillory next to the butcher's counter?

Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum · 26/08/2021 13:09

@PermanentTemporary I guess I feel more upset that he definitely said it, I was hoping I was wrong. I feel upset still and crap about myself but also angry.
I know, there’s not much else they could do, I was checking really if this would be similar procedure in the U.K.

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bigbabybum · 26/08/2021 13:09

Could I have a link to the previous thread?

Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum · 26/08/2021 13:12

Sorry I’m crap and couldn’t link, if anyone could, I’d appreciate it, just screenshot

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BrimFullOfAsher · 26/08/2021 13:12

As shitty and awful as it was/is for you, I'm not sure what more you are expecting from the supermarket?

I think they've done really well, and it's a shame to continue to judge them based on one former employee

Mayorquimby2 · 26/08/2021 13:13

What what can they do?
If they'd decided to put him on a training or education course so it doesn't happen again then there'd be arguments that they'd just paid lip service to the problem and he'd gotten away with it.
They can't dock his pay or anything like that.

Deservedly and swiftly terminated his contract