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[Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum]

I made a thread a couple of weeks back about me visiting the butcher in a supermarket near me and the young guy serving me saying that to his colleague in his local language (I live abroad)
He assumed I was on holiday and didn’t understand the language, I did. I was with my toddler daughter and was so humiliated and upset, I cried in the car on the way home.
Later, I sent a complaint to the head of the shop. They’ve now got back to me properly. Apparently they were able to discover who it was by speaking to other staff and he admitted it and was reprimanded, which resulted in him being fired and is now finishing his contract, so is still there legally.
I feel angry still that he was able to make me feel that humiliated, I was worried I’d possibly misheard part of it or got it wrong. Now he’s admitted it, I’m glad he’s lost his job and someone who deserves it can fill his place.
Do you think the supermarket did enough? It’s unlikely I’ll go back, which is a shame as it’s the main supermarket for special bits where we are.

Well it’s done now, he’s been punished and hopefully you can move on. Reading your subsequent posts, it does strike me that it would have been a big boost to your own self-esteem to have called him out on it there and then. A cold, icy, “I can understand everything you are saying and will be taking this up with the manager”. That would have been hugely satisfying.

I could not ever feel happy with someone losing a job because of me, genuinely. However, your reaction suggests this triggered or brought up some emotions of hurt? More so than just the isolated comment. His actions were unacceptable and probably deserving of a formal warning and vouchers to the customer but you know yourself, and the people who care for you. Don't let the words of a random shop assistant who doesn't know you, your personality or story at all affect you in this way. It seems bad form to revel in someone losing a job, it won't change what he thought or said!

They could have considered him going immediately while is what getting fired should mean. Maybe they can't for some reason and don't want to pay him for work not done. They have done enough. This isn't a situation where you should get money, as that's the only reason I can think of that makes him losing his job not "enough."

If you don't want to be sacked,, don't be a twat. He will have learnt a very important lesson.

Perhaps it wasn't the first time he had been reprimanded..

Issued with Warnings etc 🌸

What more do you want? It does sound like you want some financial compensation too.

All I get is a humblebrag about speaking another language.

I really think you should try to close this chapter and stop thinking about it. If going to this Market is now unconfortable for you, switch to a new one. The guy was an a-hole for sure, don't let that stupid sentence have so much power on you and your well being

@SerendipityJane WTAF?

I can’t believe the amount of sympathy and bonkers made up back story people are giving this misogynistic prick. If he didn’t want to lose his job he should have acted appropriately. I’m glad he got fired and I don’t give a shit if he can’t find another job. Actions have consequences, op did totally the right thing.

@SerendipityJane

All I get is a humblebrag about speaking another language.

I going to guess that you spectacularly failed every English comprehension test at school if that's what you got

I'd be embarrased to be revealing my stupidity on such a public forum

@Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum I can't believe some people are trying to make the OP feel bad for him being fired!

What he said was totally unacceptable and if the butcher was on her moaning about being fired for his disgusting comment everyone would be saying he deserved it!

Some people on mumsnet just like to be against the OP no matter what. Well done for complaining to the supermarket OP it was horrible but try and put it behind you now

@SerendipityJane

All I get is a humblebrag about speaking another language.

As much as your username is a humblebrag about being aware of a famous musical.

Op you seem to be coming in for a lot of flack on this thread. I think you did the right thing by complaining and I think the supermarket took the right action.

I know from your last thread how upset you were. I can understand that you have mixed feelings now and had hoped there would be a rational explanation which in truth was never going to happen.

I also understand you not wanting to go back to the store until he leaves. However, once he leaves you should go back. You shouldn't change your routine one iota as a result of his hurtful comment.

I hope you can move on with your head held high. You did nothing wrong at all and did not deserve to be made to feel so upset by a thoughtless cruel comment.

He does sound calculatedly cruel. When you describe the whole incident I think it's appropriate that he lost his job. What a toxic environment.

You are letting it get to you more than it needs to, take your power back. Don't let one bully get under your skin like this. Whether he apologizes or not means nothing. He means nothing. He's irrelevant.

I know someone who was running an English speaking class at a foreign university, never spoke their language as the idea was total immersion. Every lesson she heard nasty remarks. Never reacted.

Came to the end of the year and she gave them a goodbye speech assuring them she would be marking their assessments and was sure they'd all get the result they deserved.

She said it was hilarious to watch their faces. Obviously she marked fairly but it gave them something to think about.

The goodbye speech was in their own language. Bit of a significant bit to miss out.

serendipity

If that's what you got, I can only imagine it's because you are disproportionately impressed by someone being able to speak another language! That was not the point at all!

Not going back to the supermarket is a bit OTT, the man will be gone soon, and I would think that the store will make some movements, to get all the staff in line, as a warning to others, to have good manners, and customer relationships etc.
The store has listened to your complaints, and taken action, so no more can be done now.

What more are you expecting them to do? Burn the place down?

I think the reason you are getting some negative posts is because you seem to want more. The supermarket have given a warning and are not employing him again at the end of his contract (I don't believe he is fired as that would mean he'd have to go straight away). Hopefully soon you will be able to go back in the supermarket and feel safe again.

Yes it was a shitty thing to do and he seems to have been punished for it.

ancientgran

Bazinga!

I would have taken great pleasure in replying to him in his own language then he'd have been the one shamed and his colleagues would have laughed at him. Then asked to see his manager there and then.

@Samafe

I think they did even too much honestly

Me too. Yes, it was a bad thing to do, but to be unemployed now?

You did the right thing in complaining and the supermarket did the right thing in investigating, finding out what he'd done and then terminating his employment.

He behaved badly towards you, but don't let this stop you buying all the things you like there in the future. Time to move on now.

" (I don't believe he is fired as that would mean he'd have to go straight away). "

You can be sacked and still given a notice period.