Parents don’t think I should have another baby

[Mummy940908]

My fiancé and I want to try for another baby. We have a 5year old and 2 year old twins. Only issue is my parents seem to think we shouldn’t have any more especially my dad. and they just kick off about it without anyone even mentioning it. I can’t do right for doing wrong when it comes to my parents. If it was my younger sister 16,it’s a different story and the best thing ever. Any advice on how to tell them we are pregnant when the time comes would be appreciated or what you would do in this situation as it’s really not helping my anxiety. I want to add we also DONT rely on them for childcare or financial purposes EITHER. If anything it’s my mum relying on me for babysitting my 2 youngest sisters 8,9.

How old are you?

Do you live with them

What reasons do they give ?

It's none of their business unless you rely on them for childcare housing or money

Then just stop talking to them about it?

If they say "are you having another" say "no".

End of conversation.

@GreyhoundG1rl

How old are you?

27

Well it's not really any of their business is it? I suggest you try to assert some independence from them, they still see you as their child and not as a grown up. How you want to go about it is up to uou though.

None of their business. Its your own life. Independent of them.

@Anordinarymum

Do you live with them

No I have my own house

It is non of their business as long as you don't live with them .
Your life do as you please.

@Babyroobs

What reasons do they give ?

Mum doesn’t give any. Dad just says he can’t afford it even though he doesn’t pay anything for them xx

If you do get pregnant, just tell then you are and then tell them it's none of their business and rude to comment on other people's lives

That said, you do sound quite young and immature...so maybe don't rush into a fourth or more children

@Member984815

It's none of their business unless you rely on them for childcare housing or money

Thanks hun that’s how I see it but anxiety over it gets to me xx

Your Dad says he can't afford your children? That's odd!

Aw there's more to this story than you are dripping us with

Why do they think they get a say? When your add says he can't afford it what does he mean? Like birthdays and Xmas etc?

They probably now from experience since you appear to have several sisters that raising a large family is hard and perhaps they want to encourage you to avoid that

I think 3 kids is enough personally.
What will you get from a 4th kid that you can't get from the existing 3?

@MojoMoon

If you do get pregnant, just tell then you are and then tell them it's none of their business and rude to comment on other people's lives

That said, you do sound quite young and immature...so maybe don't rush into a fourth or more children

Why does OP sound immature? I don't get that vibe.

Bit hypocritical innit, since they have you plus (at least) 3 more.

@MojoMoon

Then just stop talking to them about it?

If they say "are you having another" say "no".

End of conversation.

9 out of ten times I don’t say anything dad will randomly come out with u better not have another baby I can’t afford it

Why would a 16 year old girl getting pregnant be the best thing ever ? This does not make sense

There is. Op, you're obviously heavily reliant on your parents for something, even if it's not money.

@Notimeforaname

None of their business. Its your own life. Independent of them.

Thanks hun

Is there more to this OP?