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To make him clean it up

470 replies

justawrinkleintime · 29/06/2021 13:24

I probably was but it was pissing me off.

I have three sons and all have been trained that when you’re peeing you aim for the toilet and if you miss them you clean it up. I leave an antibac spray next to the loo and since the age of about 5ish they’ve been taught to spray the antibac and on their own mess and wipe it up. Tbh it stopped them making a mess pretty quickly.

Anyway, my DS9’s friend is over a lot and pisses all over the loo and often the floor as well. I put it down to being in a rush and wanting to get back to playing etc.

I’d cleaned the bathroom this morning and ds’s friend proceeded to piss all over the toilet seat and on the floor. Literally minutes after I’d cleaned it - he was the first one to use it post cleaning.

I took him in and gave him the antibac and told him to wipe it up and clean it himself. He’s also 9 as well btw.

I was nice about it and said we don’t leave the toilet in that state in this house when we use it.

He went home about 15 min ago and his mum messaged me to say she’s appalled I made him clean it.

I’ve responded politely to say “it’s a shame you’re upset but I’m not cleaning up urine of someone old enough to know how to use a toilet properly...”

I’ve been unreasonable, haven’t i?

OP posts:
VettiyaIruken · 29/06/2021 13:24

No you bloody well haven't.

SoddingWeddings · 29/06/2021 13:25

Perfectly reasonable. Not your job to clean up piss.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 29/06/2021 13:25

Yanbu. My 6 yo knows to lift seat or face The Wipes....

VettiyaIruken · 29/06/2021 13:26

Has she replied?

Wellonlyifihaveto · 29/06/2021 13:26

Well done op! Grin

Sensateria · 29/06/2021 13:26

No not at all.

Newchallenge · 29/06/2021 13:27

Good for you!

mamaoffourdc · 29/06/2021 13:27

Good for you!!

TotorosCatBus · 29/06/2021 13:27

Not at all.

RestingPandaFace · 29/06/2021 13:27

Not at all.

GreenLeafTurnip · 29/06/2021 13:27

No, and you're brilliant OP!

Terminallysleepdeprived · 29/06/2021 13:28

Definitely not unreasonable in the slightest. It used to get my goat when my exfil used to do it and he was in his 70's. He also got told to clean up or sit down when he used the toilet

Justcashnosweets · 29/06/2021 13:28

YANBU at all. I wouldn't have cleaned it up either!

CheeseIsATypeOfMeat · 29/06/2021 13:29

Oh well done OP!

I would clean it up the first time but anytime after that they can do it themselves!

HomeSliceKnowsBest · 29/06/2021 13:29

You are fantastic OP Grin.

Imasoulman · 29/06/2021 13:30

Shouldn't they all be in school?

4PawsGood · 29/06/2021 13:31

Most of Scotland has broken up.

CheeseIsATypeOfMeat · 29/06/2021 13:31

Also... What on earth did the mum think you were supposed to do? What on earth does she do? She must clean up after him eveeytime. How will he learn?

I wonder if he'll be back again?!

ticktockriojaoclock · 29/06/2021 13:31

Shouldn't they all be in school?

There are a number of reasons why they might not be, it's the summer holidays in Scotland for example.

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 29/06/2021 13:32

Err why is she not 'appalled' that her son can't get his pee in the loo at his big age?! I would have done the same.

Bitofachinwag · 29/06/2021 13:33

There's no need for any male (SEN, age excepted) to wee on the toilet seat or the floor! The expectation should be that you wee in the toilet, you shouldn't even need to keep anti bac spray next to the loo. If they can't aim correctly they can sit down!

LST · 29/06/2021 13:34

My 7 year old has shit aim. He knows if he pisses everywhere he has to clean it up. Not unreasonable at all OP

ScaredOfDinosaurs · 29/06/2021 13:34

Nine years old?

Nope, you are not being unreasonable at all. I bet if that boy ever comes back, his aim will be markedly improved.

LookItsMeAgain · 29/06/2021 13:35

Nope - not unreasonable in the slightest.
The mother who texted you saying she was appalled you made her son clean up his own piss...that's a whole other story...
Why wasn't she appalled by her 9 year old pissing all over your toilet and bathroom floor???
Next time (and I think there will be a next time) - text her to come around and clean up after her son as she didn't like it when you asked him to clean up his own mess, so she must like doing it.

GreenTeaBlackCoffeeAndRedWine · 29/06/2021 13:35

Bloody hell, not unreasonable at all. Far too many boys never learn

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