To make him clean it up

[justawrinkleintime]

I probably was but it was pissing me off.

I have three sons and all have been trained that when you’re peeing you aim for the toilet and if you miss them you clean it up. I leave an antibac spray next to the loo and since the age of about 5ish they’ve been taught to spray the antibac and on their own mess and wipe it up. Tbh it stopped them making a mess pretty quickly.

Anyway, my DS9’s friend is over a lot and pisses all over the loo and often the floor as well. I put it down to being in a rush and wanting to get back to playing etc.

I’d cleaned the bathroom this morning and ds’s friend proceeded to piss all over the toilet seat and on the floor. Literally minutes after I’d cleaned it - he was the first one to use it post cleaning.

I took him in and gave him the antibac and told him to wipe it up and clean it himself. He’s also 9 as well btw.

I was nice about it and said we don’t leave the toilet in that state in this house when we use it.

He went home about 15 min ago and his mum messaged me to say she’s appalled I made him clean it.

I’ve responded politely to say “it’s a shame you’re upset but I’m not cleaning up urine of someone old enough to know how to use a toilet properly...”

I’ve been unreasonable, haven’t i?

@Imasoulman

Shouldn't they all be in school?

Depends where they live, doesn’t it?

The boy's parents need to teach him these things, she should have thanked you.
It is so grim when there is pee on the seat in your own house. Well it's always grim but in a public toilet you don't know who the culprit is so can't get them to clean it.

Asking him to clean is one thing, the way it sounds you've asked him isn't. He isn't your kid and it must have been very humiliating for him.

You didn't need to state 'in this house ....'. you could have just say that you'd noticed he'd left some urine and that you sure he clears it up at home and handed him wipes to clear up.

Personally I wouldn't have said anything. It's not his fault his parents don't make him clean. Clearing up after your kids friends is part of the invite.

OP you are my hero and not at all Unreasonable!!!

Ok, I'm going to go against the mob and say YABU.

It's not your job to parent him, you should have had a word with his parents and asked them to sort it out.

How embarrassing for the poor child.

He's just a little boy not a grown man.

Of course he needs to learn but it's not down to you.

Just think how you made that poor boy feel.

@ticktockriojaoclock

Shouldn't they all be in school?

There are a number of reasons why they might not be, it's the summer holidays in Scotland for example.

And Northern Ireland.

Nope, you're totally reasonable, well done!

Did you tell her it was HIS piss?

@Yesyoucantell so you'd happily clean up the urine of a 9 year old who wasn't your child repeatedly?

[quote poorfanjo]@Yesyoucantell so you'd happily clean up the urine of a 9 year old who wasn't your child repeatedly? [/quote]
What a weird interpretation of what I said

Maybe give it another read and try again?

YANBU

Well, it's the fault of the parents that this child was put in that position. If they don't teach him, someone else will. He's learned a new life skill - and that women don't exist to clean up his piss.

Ha!! This is epic plus I’m totalling going to make my boys do this now well the 6yr old I’ll give the 4yr old a bit of time

Not remotely unreasonable.

My DS’s each had a friend over to watch the footie. The best friend (11) of my youngest used the toilet and evidently left it in a state (unflushed and urine on floor). My eldest boy went in, saw the toilet, called said child into the toilet, made him clean it up and told him it was rude to leave a toilet in that state for others to use.

If said child’s mother had texted me after I would have let my eldest child respond

I’d be mortified if I were her! Surely her son told her that he was made to clean up his own piss, not that you’ve just randomly made him clean your dirty toilet?

@Imasoulman

Shouldn't they all be in school

Here we go again, someone else who doesn't realise or care the world doesn't revolve around the English school holidays, as here in Scotland we've broken up.

@justawrinkleintime

I probably was but it was pissing me off.

I have three sons and all have been trained that when you’re peeing you aim for the toilet and if you miss them you clean it up. I leave an antibac spray next to the loo and since the age of about 5ish they’ve been taught to spray the antibac and on their own mess and wipe it up. Tbh it stopped them making a mess pretty quickly.

Anyway, my DS9’s friend is over a lot and pisses all over the loo and often the floor as well. I put it down to being in a rush and wanting to get back to playing etc.

I’d cleaned the bathroom this morning and ds’s friend proceeded to piss all over the toilet seat and on the floor. Literally minutes after I’d cleaned it - he was the first one to use it post cleaning.

I took him in and gave him the antibac and told him to wipe it up and clean it himself. He’s also 9 as well btw.

I was nice about it and said we don’t leave the toilet in that state in this house when we use it.

He went home about 15 min ago and his mum messaged me to say she’s appalled I made him clean it.

I’ve responded politely to say “it’s a shame you’re upset but I’m not cleaning up urine of someone old enough to know how to use a toilet properly...”

I’ve been unreasonable, haven’t i?

No. She's a mug.

Knowing any sort of friendship is as good as over, I’d reply and say “I’m appalled your son pissed all over my house. I’ve taught my sons to clean up after themselves if they wee out of the toilet.” 🤷🏼‍♀️

I can’t imagine having any other response to my child telling me “ben’s mum made me clean up my pee on the toilet” than “well who did you expect to clean YOUR pee?”

@Imasoulman

Shouldn't they all be in school?

Comments like this are idiotic.

If I was that mum I'd be more mortified about my son peeing all over your bathroom to be honest!
My son is 6 and his dad has taught him to clear up after himself if he gets wee all over the toilet. Unsurprisingly hes not getting it everywhere at the moment.
A 9 year old pissing everywhere and not clearing up is pretty gross.
Her toilet must stink.

No you’re not! That mom should be ashamed she hasn’t-taught her son how to either pee in the toilet, clean up after himself or that’s its not ok to leave urine in someone else’s home!

@4PawsGood

Most of Scotland has broken up.

As have Irish Schools

@LookItsMeAgain

Nope - not unreasonable in the slightest. The mother who texted you saying she was appalled you made her son clean up his own piss...that's a whole other story... Why wasn't she appalled by her 9 year old pissing all over your toilet and bathroom floor??? Next time (and I think there will be a next time) - text her to come around and clean up after her son as she didn't like it when you asked him to clean up his own mess, so she must like doing it.

It depends what he told her, doesn't it?

If he said "friend's mum made me clean the loo", that sounds pretty bad. If he said "I peed everywhere and friend's mum made me clean up my mess", not so bad. I'd bet he said the former.

@Yesyoucantell

Ok, I'm going to go against the mob and say YABU.

It's not your job to parent him, you should have had a word with his parents and asked them to sort it out.

How embarrassing for the poor child.

He's just a little boy not a grown man.

Of course he needs to learn but it's not down to you.

Just think how you made that poor boy feel.

Hopefully embarrassed enough at pissing all over someone else’s house that he doesn’t do it again…? Honestly, some people are so precious. 🙄 you can’t get sick or die from embarrassment.