Does anyone here neglect themselves in small ways?

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Not big ways like not eating for days or never washing...but weird little ways.

I do! And I was trying to work out why...for example. I realised today that I only have about 5 pairs of knickers and they're all full of holes. I have a few fancy lacy ones but they're uncomfortable and only for fun times... no everyday ones that aren't fit for the rag bag.

I mean...I can afford them! So why haven't I got them! I went out and sorted that out today....and I started thinking that when I was growing up, after about 14 or so, my Mum just stopped buying me any clothes.

She did get me a winter coat every year and shoes but nothing else.

Could that be why I habitually forget to get things like these basics?

What about you? Do you neglect anything weird like that?

I didnt even have a proper wedding dress i just bought an off white silk/linen shift dress from Laura Ashley, it did suit me though. Made my own cake and did my own flowers, no fancy car, or photographer. My parents would have bought me a proper dress if I'd asked but I'd listened to my Dad complaining about the ridiculous fuss of big weddings for years and was proud of myself for being thrifty. I suppose i always thought I'd have other opportunities to dress up but I have slight regrets. However good old Dad gave us the money he saved on our small wedding as a help towards a house deposit so it was a good thing really.

@Puffalicious

StellaLeonte

This makes me so very sad. Thank goodness that here in.Scotland we've had sanitary protection available in all girls' toilets in school for a few years now: reusable and single use which is kept topped up every day. There's also toiletries available to all kids who our pastoral care staff know need it. We work very closely with our local youth charity to identify families who need help with clothing and shoes. Thankfully, another young Stella may get the help she needs.

I’m a fellow Scot, @Puffalicious and I’m so happy that we do this here! I had to go to a community centre a while back and was almost crying with happiness to see that there were stacks of pads and tampons etc with a notice asking people to take what they need. As you say, girls and women won’t having to face the shame of not having sanitary protection and that’s so amazing!

I thankfully can afford my own but I stockpile a little bit in my house - I’ll never ever be without what I need again. I’d love to help with the clothing etc, if you let me know the details.

@Flambola

I love taking care of myself. I was neglected as a child, abused, in and out of foster care. I remember being cold, having wet feet, not having the right clothes for the right seasons. Being hungry. I was smelly and unkempt. I refuse to be that way now, I am warm and have warm feet. I smell nice, I look nice. I’m well moisturised (in fact, in hospital recently, when I had two staff members cleaning my bloody body I was so proud when they told me how soft and lovely my skin is 🤣).

My daughter doesn’t go without and she takes pride in her appearance.

I notice the people who neglect themselves. It’s sad to see.

I was exactly the same as a child and like you I refuse to be unkempt etc. I’m so happy to read your post! Here’s to breaking the cycle of neglect and abuse ❤️

@SunshineCake

I've just spent all my birthday money on a new sports bra and several pairs of pants. Felt a bit eek when I pressed buy but it hasn't come out of housekeeping. I definitely didn't need them but the bra is ready for when the one I have a tear in does go too far and I don't have many pairs of pants in this colour and would like some.

Hope you're happy with your order @QuestionableMouse.

Hope you’re loving all of your new stuff!

I am! It's so nice to have colours to pick from rather than just black, white and navy 😂😁

PM ed you StellaLeonte

I remember recommending a sausage plait from aldi to a relative and overhearing her relaying the price to her husband in shocked undertones.

When she died, she was found to have thousands of pounds hidden away. I feel so sad for her, that she wasn't able to allow herself the "luxury" of an item from aldi.

She used to go on really cheap holidays too, and complained about them, when she could well have afforded ones that she might have enjoyed much more.

Please don't be like that, she deserved nice things, you deserve nice things, I deserve nice things.

Please treat yourselves as your budget allows.