Does anyone here neglect themselves in small ways?

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Not big ways like not eating for days or never washing...but weird little ways.

I do! And I was trying to work out why...for example. I realised today that I only have about 5 pairs of knickers and they're all full of holes. I have a few fancy lacy ones but they're uncomfortable and only for fun times... no everyday ones that aren't fit for the rag bag.

I mean...I can afford them! So why haven't I got them! I went out and sorted that out today....and I started thinking that when I was growing up, after about 14 or so, my Mum just stopped buying me any clothes.

She did get me a winter coat every year and shoes but nothing else.

Could that be why I habitually forget to get things like these basics?

What about you? Do you neglect anything weird like that?

I did another one the other day: I was standing in the supermarket hemming and hawing trying to decide whether to get apricot or raspberry jam. Then I thought, 'I'm an adult with money, I can get both!' And I did.

Some of the tales on here are sad, but I think a lot of it doesn't have a terrible reason. Like a PP said about only having one pair of shoes for each 'function', I often catch myself thinking I can only have one of a certain thing to fit each category. One swimming costume was another one. Felt brilliant and seriously luxurious to contemplate that I could have half a dozen swimming costumes and wear a different one every time!

I've just spent all my birthday money on a new sports bra and several pairs of pants. Felt a bit eek when I pressed buy but it hasn't come out of housekeeping. I definitely didn't need them but the bra is ready for when the one I have a tear in does go too far and I don't have many pairs of pants in this colour and would like some.

Hope you're happy with your order @QuestionableMouse.

It's arriving today, so me too 🤞😁

Good stuff!

My new shoes and sandals are arriving tomorrow!

I LOVE all these purchases/ giving yourselves time, attention and love. I'm off to IKEA to find a new chair/ go mad buying candles! I hope everyone finds time for themselves today- you totally deserve it.

I manage to be quite extravagant about highly impractical things (hello strapless dress and strapless basque needed to suit the neckline - during the early part of lockdown, when even out of lockdown I don't go to events suited to the dress very often!).

But then ten year old bras and grey knickers through the week, and buying at best medium priced leggings and jeans.

I seem to have this mentality where I want the money I spend to blow my mind, but that keeping myself basically looked after isn't important.

@QuestionableMouse and @Wbeezer are you happy with your purchases?

@Puffaliciousdid you get your candles?

Oh yes, I really am. The pants are so comfy and the camisoles are actually white 😂😁.

Haven't tried the socks yet but the pattern makes me happy 😁

Sunshine got loads of candles! Checked out a fair, few pieces and will decide soon. Did get new cushions for outdoors- love them.

Great news, both of you !

I'm hoping to pick up my new stuff today.

I've been reading this for a few days & was actually quite shocked to recognise a lot of things that I do.

For example, I like poppy seed crackers & couple of years ago DS1 tried them & also really liked them. I don't think I've eaten them since except maybe the odd one from the pack & I buy a couple of packs a month for DS to enjoy. Had some last night & they were lovely so will start buying more now.

Also I bought myself new underwear & sleep tops & threw away the old tatty ones :)

It was a bit if a revelation really & has changed my outlook a bit. Kids needs will always come first but I'm entitled to have wants/needs myself.

Thanks for the thread OP

@SunshineCake the sandals are going back as too small (and larger size sold out). The shoes fit but are a bit of a sensible purchase rather than a love purchase (needed some versatile heels to wear with dresses for rare formal occasions). However I'm determined and will try another purchase, in the past i would have given up and just carried on wearing my ancient ones for another year.

Well done ladies who've been out shopping. Enjoy it.
Doing Duke of York Square next weekend, can't wait.
Also still yet to get new knickers.

@AmaryllisNightAndDay Thank you shall give that a try. Funny how I've put up with it for so long.

@thecatsthecats I'm like this too, wardrobe full of impractical clothes and ridiculously high heels that I don't wear. Live in my supergas and flat back boots. Went on a splurge a bit before lockdown and was so pleased with myself (no knickers though) but come time to get dressed and there's literally nothing that makes sense and stuff that is too small. I buy thinking I'll lose weight and end up giving away clothes with tags on.

@PhantomErik
Enjoy : ).

Hopefully more will come in @Wbeezer.

I'm picking up my stuff on Monday. Can't face it today.

Does anybody else but the same outfit over and over again? I have lots of stripy long sleeves tops and slim or skinny jeans, all in varying stages of worn out, i know when i look, I'll make a beeline for Breton tops again. When i do see something that's "in" or a new colour I like I spend so long deciding to go for it that when i so try to buy its only left in the sale in weird sizes.
Hence my present hunt for green sandals, green was in a few years ago and i kept seeing things that I didn't buy, now any green is olive or very pale (or lime) and I want a nice strong green and i am thwarted.

I bought four fleeces the same all in different colours and think I've done this with pants too, in white and black. I have a lot of blue and white striped T-shirt's and a jumper plus nightshirt but feel sad about this for the reason behind it, even though I didn't do it consciously. It came to me later.

I also have several pairs of the same pumps all in different colours.

Mine are all blue and white stripes too and I have a jumper the same (well two actually but one is so holey it's for gardening only).
Its like a uniform.

@Wbeezer

Does anybody else but the same outfit over and over again? I have lots of stripy long sleeves tops and slim or skinny jeans, all in varying stages of worn out, i know when i look, I'll make a beeline for Breton tops again. When i do see something that's "in" or a new colour I like I spend so long deciding to go for it that when i so try to buy its only left in the sale in weird sizes. Hence my present hunt for green sandals, green was in a few years ago and i kept seeing things that I didn't buy, now any green is olive or very pale (or lime) and I want a nice strong green and i am thwarted.

I don't think this is a bad thing in itself if the items are really liked and will be worn a lot.

But I have sometimes bought the same items in different colours or over and over again with a 'This'll do, I can't find anything else and if these items go out of stock I will have nothing to wear ever again' mentality, and then I feel kind of resentful wearing them.

I tended to go for utilitarian "that'll do". I needed a folder for work and was going to get a plain one, but noticed that a colleague had a really beautiful one, so I thought "well why not" and bought a pretty one.
One of my aunts always had beautiful things - like william Morris patterned coasters, diaries with pretty covers. She "put herself in the way of beauty" like someone said upthread.
I'm planning to do that for myself with mugs now! I regularly use one that was free from a sports company and one that was a gift a few years ago but has a chip, because of their size. I'll get rid of the chipped one and give the massive one away & have the cupboard space for something beautiful!

I also need to sort my bras out, get measured properly etc. Feel a bit embarrassed. I really shouldn't though.

@Wbeezer - I had a similar problem with finding the right colour shoes. Wanted a dark brown but could only find taupe.
I bought the taupe ones, and purchased brown shoe dye, and converted them to the right colour!

Maybe try that approach? Obvs look for a similar green, or white shoes. Don’t buy purple ones and expect it to work 🤣

@HurryUpBetelgeuse - there is a FB group that’s often mentioned on here - S&B for sure - that instructs you on how to measure yourself for a bra. It didn’t change my measurements, but some people have been wearing bras that are seriously out of kilter with their actual shape!

Can anyone remember?

At least we’ll be able to carry off all the Breton tops with aplomb and chests facing forward!

I’ve saved this from OneRing it is a really helpful reminder:

My children's needs come before my needs, but their wants don't come before my needs. We are all as important as each other

[quote ByeByeMissAmericanPie]@HurryUpBetelgeuse - there is a FB group that’s often mentioned on here - S&B for sure - that instructs you on how to measure yourself for a bra. It didn’t change my measurements, but some people have been wearing bras that are seriously out of kilter with their actual shape!

Can anyone remember?

At least we’ll be able to carry off all the Breton tops with aplomb and chests facing forward![/quote]
This one

Thank you @ByeByeMissAmericanPie and @SunshineCake