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Original poster

To be pissed off that she keeps dumping clothes on me?

284 replies

LongIslandTea60 · 22/07/2019 17:11

A lady I know asked me a while ago what size my kids were in as she had some clothes that were too small and wanted to give them to me. My kids already have too much so I said no thankyou, but she insisted.

Today I have come home from work to find 6 bags of clothes in varying ages by my door. The majority are stained, have holes in, faded and smell damp. I literally could have cried when I got home. The local skip in our area is only open 1 day per week and its closed by the time I get home from work. I cant give it to charity, its not fit for anyone to wear.

I feel ungrateful but why the hell would anyone give someone clothes in that state? I dont know what to do with it all! AIBU?

OP posts:
timeforakinderworld · 22/07/2019 17:12

Put it back on her doorstep?

Howyiz · 22/07/2019 17:13

Take them straight back to her.

31RueCambon · 22/07/2019 17:13

6 bags!

Wow. I'd bring them back to her house. YOu don't have to worry about being super polite. She broke the social norms first. She has just given you a job to do.

Merryoldgoat · 22/07/2019 17:13

Take them back to her.

‘Thank you but I’ve already bought my children’s summer and autum clothes.

As I said I really don’t need them so here you go! I’m sure someone else will be very grateful’

Be cheery but firm. Otherwise she’ll be doing this non-stop.

DrDentyst · 22/07/2019 17:15

Sounds like my Sil.

I agree with pp above, take them back to her/leave them on her dootstep

mummytothree87 · 22/07/2019 17:15

Id just return them to her doorstep if she says anything just say you had told her already you didnt want them so thought you'd give them.back so she could pass them to someone else.Grin why should you go out your way to take them to the dump cause she cant be arsed

Original poster
LongIslandTea60 · 22/07/2019 17:15

It was 6 tesco sized bags but they were jam packed. The majority of the boys clothes are too small and dont even fit much DS. I'm really not good with confrontation or things like this

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Mintypea5 · 22/07/2019 17:15

My Sil Keeps doing this to me. I have kindly said in the past no need but she just brings a bag every time we see her and gets offended if we say no.

Luckily our recycling takes clothes if bagged up so I put the worst ones there and take the ok stuff to charity shops

fruitbrewhaha · 22/07/2019 17:16

Yes, you need to dump them back on her doorstep.

Cherrysoup · 22/07/2019 17:16

Straight back to her. Text and reiterate that you said you didn't want them.

notsohippychick · 22/07/2019 17:16

Yep, take them back to her. It’s just rude and she’s being lazy!

Wildorchidz · 22/07/2019 17:17

I feel ungrateful but why the hell would anyone give someone clothes in that state?
Because she knows that you are a doormat who will not take her rubbish back to her.

pictish · 22/07/2019 17:18

Just take them back and cheerfully explain that you don’t need them so she’s as well passing them to someone else. You will only need to do this once...she won’t dump clothes on you again.

Pipandmum · 22/07/2019 17:18

I agree take them back and cheerfully say thanks but no thanks! Ive had stuff dumped on me too with a ‘if they don’t suit just take them to a charity shop’ I have enough clutter as it is and don’t need to be storing anyone else’s!

ThomasFurious · 22/07/2019 17:19

Some supermarkets have clothes bins.

Username9641 · 22/07/2019 17:20

Some councils take textile recycling with the normal recycling collection

BubblesBubbly · 22/07/2019 17:21

She’s taking advantages because she know’s you’ll do nothing about it.

Grow a fucking backbone and go dump them back on her door step with a thanks but no thanks.

BubblesBubbly · 22/07/2019 17:21

Grrr!! Knows

greenwaterbottle · 22/07/2019 17:21

Yep I'd take them straight back. "I've already got enough clothes, I'm sure someone else will be able to make use of them better.

If you keep them you'll get more.

seven201 · 22/07/2019 17:22

Definitely put them back on her doorstep. Otherwise this will continue forever!

Haworthia · 22/07/2019 17:22

You’ve got to be brazen here. Take them back to her house with a smile and say “Like I said, I don’t need them”.

No way should you dispose of them yourself. She’ll only dump stuff on you again in a few months.

LuxuryWoman2018 · 22/07/2019 17:23

That would drive me nuts, definitely drop them back. She’s using you as a tip and it’s not kind

Wobblywibblywoo · 22/07/2019 17:24

Have you got a clothes bank anywhere near you for the air ambulance or something similar, supermarket and places seem to have them in their car parks.
Or you could take them back to her and say you don’t have the room for them.
Very annoying tho to have to sort something out you already said no thank you to.

LellyMcKelly · 22/07/2019 17:24

‘You’re very kind, but we’ve already got far too much stuff and I’m sure there are other kids who could make better use of them’

Piffle11 · 22/07/2019 17:25

You need to take them back to her, or this will keep happening. It's easier for her to dump her crap on you rather than having to take it to the rubbish tip/recycle centre herself. Nip it in the bud - if she knows she's going to end up getting it back, she'll -find another mug- rethink.