To be pissed off that she keeps dumping clothes on me?

[LongIslandTea60]

A lady I know asked me a while ago what size my kids were in as she had some clothes that were too small and wanted to give them to me. My kids already have too much so I said no thankyou, but she insisted.

Today I have come home from work to find 6 bags of clothes in varying ages by my door. The majority are stained, have holes in, faded and smell damp. I literally could have cried when I got home. The local skip in our area is only open 1 day per week and its closed by the time I get home from work. I cant give it to charity, its not fit for anyone to wear.

I feel ungrateful but why the hell would anyone give someone clothes in that state? I dont know what to do with it all! AIBU?

OP, just text her saying 'as previously mentioned I do not need these clothes. Please come and collect them or I will leave them on your doorstep when I am in the area'. Non-confrontational but I expect you will be dropping them back.

Then deny all knowledge of bags so you don't have to be gratefulgrin /she doesn't do it again!

How the freak.does she do that when she had already contacted the other woman about them?

And other woman has decided op has a 'situation' that requires shitty clothes her charity.

Thank her for her generous donations but you will no longer require them due to becoming nudests

My neighbour used to do this, I try to be grateful but my trip to the recycling centre not exactly close. Thanks goodness she moved. Her husband often over fill our bins too .

6 bags just out of order, I would return politely hopefully she won't do it again. Let let her dispose her unwanted clothing, you are not her recycling centre.

Charity shops will accept 'rags' but please label them as such. No one wants to waste time sorting them. They get paid by weight.

Well I'm intrigued as to what she thinks your situation is. I'd definitely send @CoraPirbright suggested message and get the bloody manky clothes back to her asap.

@Merryoldgoat is always a wise goat 😂 lots of PPs have said similar but I love her phrasing!

Take them back to her.

'Thank you but I’ve already bought my children’s summer and autum clothes. As I said I really don’t need them so here you go! I’m sure someone else will be very grateful’

Be cheery but firm. Otherwise she’ll be doing this non-stop.

I love hand me downs - my DCs have really benefitted but I wouldn't put mine in torn or hugely faded items nor appreciate dumpes clothes. I also pass on trainers and clothes a lot but only when wanted and let friends sort through and give back what's not suitable (children have their own style!) I only ever leave bags outside someone's door if they asked me too. And never mouldy skanky clothes! 😲

It does read from.hee reply that she thinks your wee bairns are in desperate need of torn rags. There's "being kind" and "being a bit insulting". You are not a tip. There are clothing banks she can take torn stuff to or charity shops, especially as you said no thanks.

Take each bag to H&M- they don’t check the contents but recycle the clothes and give you a £5 voucher per bag.
A favour really 😂

I think some people have a real problem with getting rid of kids outgrown clothes, we had a near stranger give us bags full at one point. It's almost a kind of hoarding by proxy. As previously said, take them back, polite but firm, suggest she passes them on to a charity.

OP, where are youse

OP, she's a cf.

Proceed with CF protocol.

If you have the time, cut all the garments up into little square patches and make her cardigans and skirts with them.

She will soon get the message when she feels obliged to wear the garments you pointedly explain that you labour over for many hours, especially when you suggest photographic selfies on social media!

Why don’t you post a photo, op? I’m really intrigued as to how dirty and holey they can possibly be?

Not that you should be forced to take them if you’ve refused already, of course. But really, what sort of stuff did she really pawn off on you?

Take straight back with a firm 'no thank you!' Don't worry about offending her, she's already offended you by offloading clothes in that state.

Take them back and leave a note

My children have to many clothes please find someone deserving or pick a charity

Otherwise this will happen again and next time it’ll be more difficult to return them

Hoping you get out the door early enough to return them her, OP

Even if she's replied and said, No, she doesn't want them back --
drop them off anyway, as she had done to you.

Don't even ask to drop the clothes off, just do it. She was out of order just dropping them off at yours when you already told her you didn't want them

My children have to many clothes please find someone deserving or pick a charity

Nobody is deserving of them, though. They're dirty and holely.

@LongIslandTea60 So what did you do in the end? Drop them back, dispose of them elsewhere or keep them?

Just take them to a charity shop and tell them they are for recycling. They will still get money for them and be happy that you have told them they should be recycled ( saves them from going through the stuff)

Yes, what happened OP?

I have this issue with a family member passing us clothes from a child 6 years older than my child. I like and have often relied on hand-me-downs from friends but in this case the age gap is too big, most of the stuff is worn out anyway, from a large bin bag I probably get a small stack of saveable/wearable stuff that won't fit for 6 years. 🤦‍♀️ You can imagine how much stuff is building up as none of it can be used by us for ages. Luckily we live by a clothes recycling bin. Unfortunately they did the same thing with masses of children's books which I had declined their offer of, just bought them all round anyway. Eventually I lugged them up the road to donate to the local school fete.

Sorry just using your post to rant 😂 but YANBU and it could easily become an on going problem, it sure is for us.

just brought them all round anyway
Really, and you didn't respond with 'f off and take you f* books with you' ?