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Choice of restaurant - AIBU?

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Virgo28 · 14/03/2019 17:53

Went out for friends partners birthday meal yesterday night at an Indian restaurant. She has 2 kids (8 & 12) neither kid likes curry so one sat eating nam bread and pompodoms and the other picked through a curry his mum ordered for him to try even though he said numerous times he didn't like it. I actually felt really sorry for them both and wondered why would you deliberately choose to go for a meal that you know your own kids don't like? She has joint custody with the kids dad so would have loads of opportunities to go for an Indian without the kids if they really wanted. I just don't get why you would do that. AIBU?

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FourEyesGood · 14/03/2019 17:59

I still get flashbacks about nam bread.

WorraLiberty · 14/03/2019 18:01

Most Indian restaurants don't just sell curry.

Surely they could've had a salad or chicken and chips or something?

ScreamingValenta · 14/03/2019 18:02

I'm glad that my parents took me to a varied range of restaurants when I was young, even though I didn't always enjoy the food. It's made me an adventurous eater in adult life.

RhiWrites · 14/03/2019 18:02

Maybe this woman choose kid friendly food might after might after night but on her own actual birthday would like a meal to her tastes which the kids could manage even if not enjoy.

It doesn’t always have to be catering to the kids wishes first, you know.

QueenOfCatan · 14/03/2019 18:02

If my parranda adhered to that idea we would be never gone out for meals. I can't believe that there wasn't a single thing on the menu that they liked, plain rice even?!

RhiWrites · 14/03/2019 18:02

That should be “night after night” not might.

QueenOfCatan · 14/03/2019 18:03

Parents, not parranda!

Chinks123 · 14/03/2019 18:03

My local Indian sells English dishes like chicken nuggets and chips, which dd has if we go. Maybe she thought they’d offer other options.

Joebloggswazere · 14/03/2019 18:04

Did she feed them before maybe? I’ve taken my two out for a birthday meal to an Indian, I fed them before hand and just let them pick at the plainer things.

WorraLiberty · 14/03/2019 18:04

I meant to add, I wouldn't feel sorry for the kids at all.

It's quite possible they were warned about the food and still chose to come.

I assume they were fed beforehand otherwise they'd at least have some plain rice or something.

mindutopia · 14/03/2019 18:08

My 6 year old has been to an Indian restaurant (and for that matter, so has my 1 year old), and it may not be her favourite food, even at 6, she’s old enough to sit reasonably well and eat something of a meal even if she doesn’t love it. 8 and 12 year olds should definitely be able to manage that. Whether I’d want to mash up that experience with a grown ups birthday night out is another question.

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Virgo28 · 14/03/2019 18:08

Sorry it wouldn't matter how much I liked a particular food, if I knew it was something my kids wouldn't enjoy I would want to eat somewhere we would all enjoy and then go out for the Indian a weekend when I didn't have the kids.

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Virgo28 · 14/03/2019 18:11

There were no chips or anything not Indian on the menu. I guess she could of asked but didn't as far as I heard. To say they might have been warned but chose to go anyway is ridiculous - they are 8 & 12.

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WorraLiberty · 14/03/2019 18:11

What does that have to do with the person whose birthday it was and their kids though? Confused

WorraLiberty · 14/03/2019 18:13

X posted

Yes they're 8 and 12, not 2 and 4.

I also cannot believe an Indian restaurant didn't offer anything but curry.

Are you in the UK?

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Virgo28 · 14/03/2019 18:13

It was her partners birthday - he is not their father.

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CostanzaG · 14/03/2019 18:15

Surely they sold chips and other plain food. I really dislike curry but can always find something to eat

Morgan12 · 14/03/2019 18:15

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Virgo28 · 14/03/2019 18:15

Yes in the UK. It was lovely very authentic restaurant in the middle of nowhere. 8 & 12 are not old enough to be left home alone - neither are responsible enough but that is a different debate altogether.

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WorraLiberty · 14/03/2019 18:15

No but the mother was there, was she not?

So my question still stands.

What do your choices have to do with any other parent's choices?

CallMeCarolDanvers · 14/03/2019 18:16

They won't have starved. Once in a while it does kids no harm to learn that the world doesn't revolve round them. But obviously you would like us all to condemn your 'friend'. Will there be a drip feed about how she makes the DC sleep in the shed when her partner is staying over?

WorraLiberty · 14/03/2019 18:17

Oh FFS who mentioned leaving kids alone?

I really hope you didn't sit there 'celebrating' your friend's partner's birthday with a great big judgey cat's bum face, due to their different choices.

No kids were harmed during the evening...

ShakeYourTailFeathers · 14/03/2019 18:18

I thought most kids like a chicken korma? I did at that age.

WorraLiberty · 14/03/2019 18:19

Will there be a drip feed about how she makes the DC sleep in the shed when her partner is staying over?

Nah, they'll be sent to stay with their naan Grin

SpogTheDog · 14/03/2019 18:19

I assume that they survived the experience and aren't in the nearest children's hospital suffering a severe case of malnourishment? If so then YABU.

Naan bread is lovely stuff too. I could happily eat just that and nothing more.