To think my DH is useless at the most basic task?

[Beaubeagle]

Not feeling great earlier so DH offered to go to the supermarket for a few bits we needed. I wrote a very detailed list:

Ham (naice)
Carrots x2 bags
Sausages (at least 18 thick)
Cheap birthday card

DH then rang from the supermarket to check what kind of ham he should buy (I buy the same ham weekly and always have.....) so I described, in detail, the honey roast ham in the black packet.

DH came home with the following:

Cheap, nasty ham in a clear packet
A tiny packet of carrot batons (there are 7 of us at home this weekend for dinner)
2 packets of 8 sausages
A birthday card that cost £3!

Wibu to LTB? He’s bloody hopeless! (I do love him lots though).

Oh dear, did he get it right when you sent him back out again?

Haha... men for you! (Shielding from all the mn-s who will start throwing stones). You need sth done properly, find a busy woman:)

What the actual fuck! Is he stupid?

How can he have got it so wrong? I mean that is an impressive level of uselessness! Do you normally do everything?

That's pathetic. I'd say that of man or woman.

Oh come on Kattyy you don't actually think all men are like that? Most men can do a bit of shopping for goodness sake!

I don’t get the issue with the sausages.

That said, I had to go out on Christmas Bloody Eve looking for Christmas Crackers.

They had been on DH’s highly detailed list but he still came home with Jacobs.

I can only hope he was turned around and sent back to get the right things.
Its the only way he will learn not to piss about. Anything less than this is allowing him to pull the oldest trick in the book and not have to do anything .Because hes so hopeless you see.

Can't he decide to buy what he thinks is best? Does he cook at home? If not then fair enough I suppose. But if he does some cooking then he should be able to have a say?

Maybe he likes cheap ham. Maybe he likes that card. Consider that you may be too controlling.

She asked for at least 1i. He got 16.

18

But SwordtoFlamethrower he bought too few sausages and carrots for the meal. That’s not choice , it’s not seeing what the priorities are, and incompetence.

Yes, that is indeed an impressive level of bloody useless.

Also he rang her to ask her to describe the ham and still got the wrong ine. I mean wtf? If my DH rang me to ask me to describe ham I would be questioning whether I do too much for him.

That's deliberate, so that you never ask him to shop again! DH once admitted he used to make rubbish cuppa's so that he wasn't asked again!

Kattyy I always get exactly what's on the list but thanks

YABU

Presumably you know your dh and in your normal life he doesn't shop. Why you choose to live like this I have no idea but I'm surprised that you're surprised.

If you can afford posh ham you can afford a £3 birthday card. 16 is probably better than 24 sausages if they were only available in 8 packs, and it really won't hurt you to have a different kind of ham for a week (if you want a particular sort you should buy it yourself) so the only real issue is the carrots.

Possibly outing but this is what I found after DH had made everyone ham sandwiches.

WTF was I supposed to do with the left overs?

Idiot.

Why are many of us married to idiots? Because we're also idiots, allowing it to continue! Sobering thought.

Loving the photo above.
That man does not compromise. Respect.

I don’t think he did too bad tbf

Isn't it amazing how these men are fully capable of holding down a job but when it comes to basic tasks like shopping or housework they become professionally incompetent. Of course the whole idea is that if they do it badly enough they will never be asked again = a win/win for them

Well, it looks like he’s having crappy ham sandwiches all weekend, not enough sausages, and no carrots. These people are not idiots. They’re screwing up so they don’t have to do it again.

Agree its deliberate so you never ask him to do YOUR jobs again. It was hardly a long complicated list