AIBU & grabby?

[worthsolittle1]

First post so may be a bit long I've been with my partner for over 3 years and i have 3 children he has none that live with him.
He has recently rented out his house to help pay off his debts quicker moved in with us & said he will pay me £150.
I work full time earn 3 times less than him I'm not broke but neither am I rolling in money I feel a little sad that that's all he thinks I'm worth I think I'm being a little unreasonable as I'd still have all my bills to pay if he wasn't living here.

I had an ex who used me to pay off debt promised marriage and strung me along till everything was in my name then went off with another woman. I don't want to be a mug again but neither do I want to come across as money grabbing :(

Can you work out how much extra he'll be costing you and then ask for that?

£150.00, a month , week one off?

Sorry £150 a month

Is he contributing to the house in other ways i.e. childcare, consumables ?

He's a cocklodger!

Bills should be split equally or according to wage. If the rent is paying off his debt, why can't he pay more of his actual paycheck to the household.

Did you mean that he has no kids, or he has no access to his kids?

Why did you let him do this?????

Cocklodger.

How does £150/ week measure up to your costs for mortgage bills council tax food water etc?

Xpost A MONTH????? 😨😨😨

He's using you to get himself out of debt. I suggest you tell him living together obviously isn't going to work. He is indeed an A+ cocklodger.

Is that £150 a week or a month? If it's the former, that's woefully inadequate, principally because you will lose benefits (assuming you're claiming any) if you're a couple together. I would suggest you split everything in half, rent, bills, food and so forth. That's equal and fair on you.

£150 a month so he can clear his debt? So basically you are clearing his debt too? Fuck that! Cocklodger is right! Yanbu

Fucking hell, that's peanuts.

Awooga, Awooga, Cock lodger alert.

He’s a chancer isn’t he? £150 a month to cover his rent, food and bills?? 😂

How much was his rent previously?

What’s the £150 meant to be for? Rent AND bills (you’ll lose your council tax discount now) AND food etc?

On the basis of what you’ve written he’s taking the absolute piss and I’d be feeling incredibly insulted.

It should be a discussion, not an opportunity to abuse your goodwill and chuck you some meagre housekeeping ffs.

No he doesn't contribute in other ways we take iit in turns & buy the odd takeaway night out etc

I’m guessing you lose out on tax credits and single person council tax now that he’s moved in OP?

What will the £150 cover? Is it just towards rent or is it suppose to cover utilities, food etc?

He's using you get rid or tell him live elsewhere

He's renting out his house and earning three times more than you and giving you 40 odd quid a week? What's that to include?

How much debt does he have?

Then no, that’s not bloody okay. You and he should both want both of your lives to be easier for you and all of your children.

Do you have space in your home for his DC to come and stay?

£150 a month for everything? Rent, bills, food?
That's a tiny amount if so.
What are your outgoings?

Hilarious! What a muppet.

He earns three times more and doesn't cover his costs or contribute. He is using you majorly. Get rid !

£150 a month?

Fucking piss staking arsehole.

'you'd be paying the bills anyway' - classic cocklodger reasoning.

Tell him get to fuck. Why should you subsidise his debts???

£150 a month! Can I come & live with you?

He's that rather perfectly named 'cocklodger' if the situation was reversed would he be happy with you paying him £150 PER MONTH!