AIBU & grabby?

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First post so may be a bit long I've been with my partner for over 3 years and i have 3 children he has none that live with him.
He has recently rented out his house to help pay off his debts quicker moved in with us & said he will pay me £150.
I work full time earn 3 times less than him I'm not broke but neither am I rolling in money I feel a little sad that that's all he thinks I'm worth I think I'm being a little unreasonable as I'd still have all my bills to pay if he wasn't living here.

I had an ex who used me to pay off debt promised marriage and strung me along till everything was in my name then went off with another woman. I don't want to be a mug again but neither do I want to come across as money grabbing :(

Yep, as PP has said - I bet that doesn't even cover the loss of single person council tax discount and reduction in tax credits.

If the rent from his house covers the debt payments, then what is the whole of his wage paying for?

If he's moved in then bills should be 50/50.

£150 per week would be reasonable! Even £100 per week? He's taking the piss - he'll cost you more than that!

Don't feel like a money grabber. You're not. But you are aware that you could be taken for a mug. I think all the posters on this thread are in agreement that he's taking the piss. Don't be too polite to allow him to continue to make a mug of you.

Tight bastard. Ditch him. Nothing attractive about a penny pinching un generous man 🤢

This is a pisstake honestly...sorry but he is using you.

That's not on. You will regret this in time. When his debts are cleared he will have assets (house) that you have no entitlement to. He is basically living rent free!

He is paying you about £35 per week?!

Zibbo why presume she receives tax credits?

150.00 a month works out at 37.50 a week...and is that supposed to cover his share of all the bills (electricity, gas, water, landline, WiFi , food, toiletries (I'm assuming he will be using toilet rolls, soap, toothpaste etc) because if that's what he is expecting then he needs to give you way more money otherwise you are going to be out of pocket

IMO, the minimum he needs to pay is 25% council tax (as you lose your single person discount), 20% of other bills (assuming they won't increase much) and a realistic amount towards food and consumables, depending on his appetite etc.

That's a minimum.

A decent bloke would be splitting all non-mortgage costs 50/50.

Sorry posted too soon.

There's only me and DH here. We rent a little flat for £70 a week (economically low end area of the country) and our basic bills (rent, C tax, elec, phone, broadband, water, home contents insurance) without groceries are over £600 a month.

How the hell he thinks fair contribution is £150 a month just boggles my little brain.
He either can't add up or is using you.

Zibbo why presume she receives tax credits?

It was a question.

£150 for all rent, food, bills? He is royally taking the piss! Tell him a sensible amount or he can move right back out. That’s a stupid amount to have agreed. I can spend that on a weeks shop for 2 of us.

Hilarious! What a muppet.

Do you feel clever, now?

he will pay me £150. at which point you said jog on fucker?

Nope. No can do. You are not grabby! How could you think that? You will be worse off with him, especially if he quits work and becomes a stay at home dad.

Sorry, he's using you.

I paid nearly that at home when I got my first job at 16 and that was nearly thirty years ago.

Does he sit still in a dark corner wearing unwashed clothing, never eating or drinking anything or taking a shower because that's the only way he is paying enough.

You are not being grabby.

Wow! What have you said to him?

Cheeky sod telling you much he'll contribute instead of asking you how much you would like/need!

22 years ago dh moved into my flat and paid me £40 a week. He also paid some of the food bill and paid for dinner out. Your new boyfriend is taking the piss.

WHY on earth did you EVER agree to such a stupidly low amount? His debts are not your problem. He is completely using you. Badly. Either increase the amount to £150/week or tell him it's not working and he needs to move out.

Well that would be you, who have 3 dependants and a lower income, paying off his debts wouldn't it. He's a sponger and I would have him live in my house.