I think my friend should pay, she thinks we should split it?

[Welshgal1]

Driving a friend 4 hours away for an operation (cosmetic) and will use 2 full tanks of fuel in my car, cost of a hotel, food while I'm there and I'm using a days annual leave.
She wants to split all costs down the middle, whereas I think I'm using my holiday entitlement and 2 days of my time (which I am more than happy to give up) but don't think I should be paying for fuel, or for the hotel? I've said I'll pay for all my own food.
Her logic is we're both going so why should only she pay, she's already paying lots for surgery.
My logic is I wouldn't be going if it wasn't to do her a favour so don't see it fair to split costs.
Whats the right thing to do here? Don't want to be mean but trying to be fair...

She is a cheeky fucker and should be paying for all of it.

She should pay.

Let her go on her own.

Would you be going anyway?
From the info you’ve given it seems not.
On that basis of course she should pay.

I would expect her to pay. You are already at a loss with time, wear and tear on your car, using your leave for her rather than yourself etc. Yep I think it's only fair she pays. I'd be well pissed off if I was you.

Her logic is "we are both going so should split it".
My reply would be "fair enough, I'm not comong any more".

I honestly can't follow her logic here. What are your plans while she's having the surgery? The only way I could possibly see where she's coming from is if you're going to some kind of mini break resort and you'll be having the time of your life while waiting for her. Even then, she'd be pushing it.

Your friend is so cheeky! You are doing her a big favour. Of course she should pay. Or just tell her to get a taxi.

Absolutely she should pay.

You're doing her a favour - she should pay.

Unless you were already going to this place she should pay. How would she get there and back if you weren’t taking her?

If I was going to be able to do fun stuff while she was in surgery etc and enjoy the hotel, I’d probably offer to pay my share of that. She shouldn’t expect it though. Petrol definitely on her I’d say.

Her logic is "we are both going so should split it"
My reply would be "fair enough, I'm not comong any more"

This.

Friend is being absurd. Save your money for an outing that's actually fun for you.

I'd say either she pays for fuel at the very least or she can get the train. Cheeky cow!

You are right, of course you are. She should be paying all costs and buying you a nice present, or at least a nice dinner, as a thank-you. Unless there is something you're not telling us and the journey involves a wonderful holiday experience that you've been yearning for for ages.

My money's on her having a boob job.

You’re doing her a favour so she should pay for everything. If it was me that would also include your food. You sound like a lovely friend.

You could pay for your food. She should pay for everything else.
At least she is not letting you pay for half her operation.
What a great friend you are, giving up your time and holiday allowance to look after her.
She may be in pain after the procedure and need you.

CF. Just say you're not going anymore.

Tell her to get the train.

She should pay

according to the friend's logic the taxi driver who takes her to the station (after the OP has bowed out) should pay half the fare because he gets to go to the station too

Don't take her!!

Another thread where you end up scratching your head and thinking who and where do you find these people? I have genuinely never come across this sort of cheeky entitlement, especially amongst my friends!