I think my friend should pay, she thinks we should split it?

[Welshgal1]

Driving a friend 4 hours away for an operation (cosmetic) and will use 2 full tanks of fuel in my car, cost of a hotel, food while I'm there and I'm using a days annual leave.
She wants to split all costs down the middle, whereas I think I'm using my holiday entitlement and 2 days of my time (which I am more than happy to give up) but don't think I should be paying for fuel, or for the hotel? I've said I'll pay for all my own food.
Her logic is we're both going so why should only she pay, she's already paying lots for surgery.
My logic is I wouldn't be going if it wasn't to do her a favour so don't see it fair to split costs.
Whats the right thing to do here? Don't want to be mean but trying to be fair...

Don’t think she deserves your friendship. You are generous, she is most definitely not!!

Ditto, that's my answer too what kind of friend is she more to the point
has she done this sort of thing before ?

Fuk that , she should pay. I wouldn't even go now tbh , just by her attitude.

That’s pretty clear feedback from all - why would you pay for the pleasure of taking her unless she’s skint but if she can afford private cosmetic surgery I guess not - comment 1 hit nail on the head - she’s a cheeky fucker! Let us know what you think now?

See the new thread, which is linked to a few posts ago. Things have moved on!

She should definitely pay for all of it

Personally I wouldn’t go. Cheeky doesn’t even cut it or even a pisstake. She is using you and you are letting her.
Whether you’re saving for Mat leave or a return trip to Saturn is beside the point and has nothing to do with her.

1. She is having non essential surgery.
2. She should’ve accounted for accommodation/travel and some contingency. What if there were complications and she had to stay longer?
3. You should’ve given your stance and the beginning but that’s now hindsight. You need to make it very clear. Either she pays or you cannot go.

If you cannot tell her that you cannot go I would say that you will pick her up on the day she is to return. You’ll go by train which she has to pay for and the return cab journey is on her too.

Cheeky cow and clearly very entitled. Tell her youre busy.

Tell her that unless she pays, you're not able to take her. You're going out of your way to be kind to her - what a cheek she's got!

She’s using you. If it’s so reasonable, let her find someone else willing to do it. She won’t be able to.

Public transport it is then - but for God sake don't suggest she'd have more space in first class, or she'll have you pay the different between cattle and first class tickets!

Cancel. She is not your friend because friends don't treat each other like that.

Tell her you can't take her now. She's chancing her arm, if it was a medical procedure it's different she's choosing to do this. She sounds an arsehole, I live in Wales I'll tell her.

This is the best thread I’ve read! Best wishes to you and your man, enjoy your holiday, enjoy having that toxic tit out of your life and good luck on making babies 😉

Don't take her. She's taking the Michael and it's not fair..she should be saying cheers mate for taking me and giving up a day hol and buying you a thank u gift. I would not have a friend like this in my life xxx

Thread 2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3245152-titzilla-2-implants-lawsuits-love-affairs

Things got super crazy!

Ole. She pays. That's a CF all over

I think she should pay,your only doing her a favour, are let her go by public transport are drive herself if she drives.

She should pay for everything and get you a nice gift like a spa day for you helping Her!!

Some " friend."
Dump her.
Now.

I wish thd second thread was further up too to prevent well meaning posters offering advice that is now meaningless

• Sorry , shit grammar there, mh phone’s being a massive tit.

TITZILLA 2: Implants, lawsuits & love affairs
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3245152-titzilla-2-implants-lawsuits-love-affairs

TITZILLA 2: Implants, lawsuits & love affairs
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3245152-titzilla-2-implants-lawsuits-love-affairs

TITZILLA 2: Implants, lawsuits & love affairs
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3245152-titzilla-2-implants-lawsuits-love-affairs