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DP masturbating in my bed...aibu

272 replies

LittleMissUnreasonable · 27/12/2017 10:12

I had family over for Xmas at mine this year and stay over . Dp of 1 year joined us as he has had a difficult time recently with parents separating under very complicated circumstances. We woke up together about 8.30 and he said he hadn't slept well due to his family circumstances being on his mind. While I was comforting him, he got turned on. He was embarrassed and said to just ignore it as it was a body reaction.

I heard my family downstairs so said I was going to get u and play host and if he wanted a few minutes to rest or have to himself due to the rough night that was fine.

I went down and saw to my family, made coffee and decided to take DP a tea up to bed. When I went up to my room he was acting shifty and refused when I tried to pull back the covers for a hug. Turns out he was mastubating and watching a Pornographic video on his phone in my bed. We argued and I said he was being disrespectful lying there doing that in my bed while I'm running about after family. He was mortified and so sorry and said he was hoping it would make him feel better.

Was I being unreasonable to feel annoyed. Please note I don't have a problem with it at all, it's perfectly normal to master bate but there's times and places surely Confused

OP posts:
cakeymccakington · 27/12/2017 10:14

I don't see the problem personally. Nothing wrong with a nice morning wank

Sofabitch · 27/12/2017 10:14

In bed with a few minutes to yourself seems like the perfect time and place.

ShatnersWig · 27/12/2017 10:14

So what is an acceptable time and place to masturbate, in your opinion?

cakeymccakington · 27/12/2017 10:15

I'd only have a issue if he jizzed all over the sheets

araiwa · 27/12/2017 10:15

Better than during family xmas dinner.

glow1984 · 27/12/2017 10:16

My DP was doing this this morning, while I was lying next to him half asleep. It was more annoyed about him waking me up / keeping me awake to be honest.

What else was he supposed to do, walk around erect and help you with family lol

ChelleDawg2020 · 27/12/2017 10:16

To be honest I think you're over-reacting. In any event, he's apologised and probably will think twice before doing it in your bed again.

bigchris · 27/12/2017 10:16

Also think it's fine

Pfftkids · 27/12/2017 10:16

I would have told him to hurry up and get to the tickly bit so he can help me out.

AnyFucker · 27/12/2017 10:17

You gave him a few minutes to relax by himself. He used it in the way he chose.

Not keen on porn and would expect my bed to be spunk-free but otherwise don't see the problem.

Bluebellevergreen · 27/12/2017 10:18

cakeymccakington Grin

letsdolunch321 · 27/12/2017 10:19

I would be fine with him having a little fiddle.

MrsMotherHen · 27/12/2017 10:20

Oh please really? Its not like he did it in your living room with the family! He was turned on when you comforted him then had a spare 10mins in bed and had a cheeky wank.

category12 · 27/12/2017 10:21

Yabu. You said he could stay in bed.

If it is the porn you object to, then that's a matter of discussion - but him having a wank in bed is not something to shame him for or get a strop about.

JollyGiraffe · 27/12/2017 10:21

I would find it very disrespectful if my partner was watching porn in my bed

Namechangetempissue · 27/12/2017 10:21

No problem with that myself. He was doing it in bed in privacy -where better?

iBiscuit · 27/12/2017 10:21

He was embarrassed and felt the need to apologise for having an erection? In bed? With his girlfriend? Confused Hmm

Branleuse · 27/12/2017 10:22

i dont see the problem.

maras2 · 27/12/2017 10:22

Wanking wouldn't bother me but the porn BLEURGH.

EmilyChambers79 · 27/12/2017 10:23

You told him to have a few minutes to himself, he did.

Were you expecting him to come straight down and run round after your family too?

NerrSnerr · 27/12/2017 10:23

Woah. Man has a wank when alone in bed shocker! It also seems odd that he was embarrassed that he had an erection in the morning.

LloydColeandtheCoconuts · 27/12/2017 10:24

Better than during family xmas dinner

Grin
Rossigigi · 27/12/2017 10:24

No issue with it.
He was turned on and had the bed to himself, so he made good of the situation. You are way over-reacting.

Shoxfordian · 27/12/2017 10:24

I wouldn't have a problem as long as he cleaned up after himself

Desmondo2016 · 27/12/2017 10:24

Seems totally reasonable. Yabu

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