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DP masturbating in my bed...aibu

272 replies

LittleMissUnreasonable · 27/12/2017 10:12

I had family over for Xmas at mine this year and stay over . Dp of 1 year joined us as he has had a difficult time recently with parents separating under very complicated circumstances. We woke up together about 8.30 and he said he hadn't slept well due to his family circumstances being on his mind. While I was comforting him, he got turned on. He was embarrassed and said to just ignore it as it was a body reaction.

I heard my family downstairs so said I was going to get u and play host and if he wanted a few minutes to rest or have to himself due to the rough night that was fine.

I went down and saw to my family, made coffee and decided to take DP a tea up to bed. When I went up to my room he was acting shifty and refused when I tried to pull back the covers for a hug. Turns out he was mastubating and watching a Pornographic video on his phone in my bed. We argued and I said he was being disrespectful lying there doing that in my bed while I'm running about after family. He was mortified and so sorry and said he was hoping it would make him feel better.

Was I being unreasonable to feel annoyed. Please note I don't have a problem with it at all, it's perfectly normal to master bate but there's times and places surely Confused

OP posts:
RadioGaGoo · 27/12/2017 13:02

Really poor cum back Elendon

cakeymccakington · 27/12/2017 13:03

The fuck?

Elendon · 27/12/2017 13:06

Woman has a sex life outside of Mills and Boons.

Hold the front page!

Porn doesn't excite woman but she still get's aroused?

The Fuck?

DorisDangleberry · 27/12/2017 13:07

No one NEEDS to wank

Yes they do. Otherwise their balls explode

Elendon · 27/12/2017 13:09

Anyway. Back to whether semen emissions would result in a change of sheets.

Why? Do you change your sheets daily during your period?

cakeymccakington · 27/12/2017 13:10

If I leaked blood on them I would yes

RavenWings · 27/12/2017 13:11

Why? Do you change your sheets daily during your period?

Do you free bleed on the sheets every day of your period? Or do you use sanpro?

If I bled on my sheets you bet I'd change them. It's not a difficult scenario to imagine.

kaytee87 · 27/12/2017 13:12

Why? Do you change your sheets daily during your period?

If I got blood on them yes of course, wouldn't you? Confused

Elendon · 27/12/2017 13:13

No. I wouldn't. It's a bit of blood. It's a bit of semen.

My partner wouldn't be changing and washing the sheets, so why would I?

MaidOfStars · 27/12/2017 13:15

He was embarrassed and said to just ignore it as it was a body reaction
How old is he?

kaytee87 · 27/12/2017 13:15

My partner wouldn't be changing and washing the sheets, so why would I?

My dh would defo change the sheets too if there was blood on them. Everyone has different standards though.

cakeymccakington · 27/12/2017 13:16

So I think I get the jist of what elendon is saying now.

It's fine to sleep on blood and semen covered sheets

It's fine to sleep with a partner who is married

It's great to orgasm in your sleep

Wanking is great but only if you use your imagination

Porn has erections

Men shouldn't like watching people have sex but women can like that

Porn is bad

Erections

You shouldn't "waste" an erection but if you want porn you should waste an erection

cakeymccakington · 27/12/2017 13:17

My partner wouldn't be changing and washing the sheets, so why would I?

Why wouldn't s/he?

OliviaBonas · 27/12/2017 13:18

YABU

Also this thread is hilarious! 😂

Elendon · 27/12/2017 13:20

A leak of blood isn't a call to change sheets. Don't you people go out to work?

A leak of semen isn't call to change sheets. Don't you people go out to work?

Cakey - if you like watching men with erections having sex then that's okay. I'm not judging.

But you seem to be judging me.

catlovingdoctor · 27/12/2017 13:21

Are you going to make your kids feel ashamed for doing the same thing? A perfectly normal and healthy thing?

Greensky89 · 27/12/2017 13:21

Oh your family were in you bedroom watching Him?

If not then yabu.

cakeymccakington · 27/12/2017 13:22

No I don't go out to work.

Yes I like watching guys have sex.

Yes I like watching women have sex.

Yes I judge people who sleep on dirty sheets and knowingly shag married men.

Hth

Sallystyle · 27/12/2017 13:22

I would have an issue with the porn because I am anti porn. That would have been a very massive issue for me. But porn doesn't bother you so that part is irrelevant.

The masturbating would not have bothered me. It's a great stress reliever. You didn't mind him staying in the room for a bit, so i'm not sure why it matters if he laid there and relaxed or wanked.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 27/12/2017 13:27

Well this was an interesting read...

I don't even think fifty shades of grey, features the word erection as many times as it's been mentioned on this thread 😂😂

mrsharrison · 27/12/2017 13:28

As for women not getting ball ache due to no sex. My friend changes personality if she goes without for a week. She swears continually and is aggressive and unbearable to be around. She needs bromide or a partner who can shag her at least once a day.

tiredandwornoutmumma · 27/12/2017 14:00

The only people that seem to take issue with him is that OP was busy preparing/making breakfast and that her DP wasn't helping but she actively told him to stay in bed for a bit and relax Hmm

Elendon · 27/12/2017 14:04

Is relax an euphemism now for wanking?

I may skip my next yoga class.

Coolaschmoola · 27/12/2017 14:07

I do go out to work... I'm just not gross enough to sleep in stained sheets.

TheVanguardSix · 27/12/2017 14:08

I mean, it's normal. It's what we humans do. But in another way, I get why it bothered you. I think the porn would bother me. Porn doesn't go down well with me. That's a personal view though.