DP masturbating in my bed...aibu

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

I had family over for Xmas at mine this year and stay over . Dp of 1 year joined us as he has had a difficult time recently with parents separating under very complicated circumstances. We woke up together about 8.30 and he said he hadn't slept well due to his family circumstances being on his mind. While I was comforting him, he got turned on. He was embarrassed and said to just ignore it as it was a body reaction.

I heard my family downstairs so said I was going to get u and play host and if he wanted a few minutes to rest or have to himself due to the rough night that was fine.

I went down and saw to my family, made coffee and decided to take DP a tea up to bed. When I went up to my room he was acting shifty and refused when I tried to pull back the covers for a hug. Turns out he was mastubating and watching a Pornographic video on his phone in my bed. We argued and I said he was being disrespectful lying there doing that in my bed while I'm running about after family. He was mortified and so sorry and said he was hoping it would make him feel better.

Was I being unreasonable to feel annoyed. Please note I don't have a problem with it at all, it's perfectly normal to master bate but there's times and places surely

I wouldn't mind the masturbating, I would mind the porn.

YABU

And are you ok Elendon

Wow, you don’t seem much fun. Not sure I see the problem.

YABU OP imo.

@Elendon

I hate this "disrespectful" bullshit. Such a high horse some people sit themselves on. Wanking over the top of you whilst you sleep, is disrespectful. Wanking when alone, in bed and aroused is what adults do.. maybe you need to think about whether or not you're mature enough for an adult relationship

Time and place?
In bed out of sight?
Fine.
The pornography not fine.

Has the OP been back? Maybe her DP’s balls have exploded. Which can be quite messy I hear.

Yabu I hope your family didn't hear what the argument was about

Christ, let people masturbate if they want to. It was in bed away from everyone. I could understand if it was under the dinner table!

So weird to start an argument about it, yank the sheets back and try to make him feel ashamed.

Relax! It's not like he jizzed in the gravy! 💦✊🏽🍆

Op didn't come back then ?

Surprising

I would say the lack of openness is a problem. His shiftiness indicates he knows this is something that is not ok with you and shameful. Relationship wise your reaction would be a red flag.

You're annoyed because?...

Relax! It's not like he jizzed in the gravy
😂😂😂

Maybe you should have given him a list re where he is & isn't allowed to knock one out, OP. Include times too. You know, just for clarity

I just want to add that I love the term "sporting an erection"

It's very Daily Failesque isn't it. They love terms like "flaunting her beach body", "showcasing her baby bump" etc, so I think "sporting an erection" is right up their street

Have seldom seen such consistent responses to an AIBU!

Honestly, if I wasn’t too busy, my reaction would be to ask DH if I could do anything to help or just stay and watch

Maybe you should have given him a list re where he is & isn't allowed to knock one out, OP. Include times too. You know, just for clarity

Brilliant 😂😂

OP, when you walked in, there were a couple of options for you -

1. Jump on and help a guy out
2. Stay and watch, then jump on
3. Roll your eyes and walk back out without saying anything.

Shaming a bloke for having a wank is a bit shitty. Sometimes I fancy strumming one out when my DP gets up in the morning, since sometimes I can’t really be bothered to have sex. Sometimes he comes back in and joins in, we have a lovely time. Sometimes he doesn’t. Sometimes I know he’s giving himself a jolly time and I just leave him to it. Sometimes I join in. Sometimes I watch for a bit then join in. It’s normal isn’t it?

Jizz in the gravy

Please come back OP

Testicular fulmination!! Love it!

Oh please come back OP,

I don't see anything wrong with the wanking nor the porn tbh but I guess everyone's different.

i've said it before on MN and I know I know there are those puritanical husbands the ones whose wives are too dozy to catch them who believe porn is morally wrong and would never lay eyes on it and I also know those men are liars. if you want a man who doesn't wank or watch porn when the opportunity arises you... well.,, you don't want a man. here come the dozy wives....

bendywendy

I don’t know if I find your low expectations for men more or less depressing than your lack of respect for other women.

Let’s hope you’re just goady.

@SmileEachDay