Two Thousand Sexual Partners

[brasty]

AIBU to judge a man who has had sex with 2,000 people? I normally do not judge the number of people someone has sex with, but this is way over the top.

They're either an escort or a liar, surely?!

Presume the 2,000 are his left hand and right hand.

YABU.
That said, I would judge anybody who made it their mission to tell anyone who'd listen (as some do).
Who are you, or anybody, to determine what an okay limit is for someone else...?

Neither. Some of the first men to be diagnosed with HIV had had sex with this many people. Researchers were trying to trace their sexual contacts as part of the early research into the disease

I think your being unreasonable to judge him for it. His life his choice.

Who is it like, someone you know?

If the sex was with consenting adults and nobody was led on etc, why should it matter?

Brasty - you've already posted threads about your views that sex 'should mean something'.

We get it. You'll never understand people who view sex in a different way.

That's okay. Doesn't mean that people who view sex differently are wrong or 'over the top'.

I wonder how people have the time to have sex with 2K people. I don't think I have even met that number of people in my whole life.

It's believeable if he is a gay man, otherwise I would be highly sceptical. Unless he's a porn star.

What is it with you and other people’s sex lives?

Yes gay man going to orgies etc. Perfectly possible if you are going to these once a week and having sex with 5 different men, and you are in a big City with a large gay population.

Everyone has a hobby

God my life is boring, yeh i read “the man who would be queen” so if gay not a surprise by the sounds of it.

YABU to judge unless it has personally upset or betrayed you or someone you love. Yes, it’s a lot but so what if everyone’s is safe and consenting?

Sounds fun to me.

Someone close to me has had around this many sexual partners, mostly male but also female. He’s always been an extremely sexual person, it’s just who he is. He does count himself lucky to not have contracted HIV in the 80s. I don’t judge him in the least, his life his choices.

I'm another one wondering how they have the time. I'd assume that they frequently went to a sex 'club'/swingers parties/orgies type thing.

I mean, you'd have to be racking up several a week for a few years to reach this number. Do they not need to sleep?

(I've lived a very sheltered life, obviously).

As long as everyone is consenting and keeping it safe then they can crack on with as many people as they like as far as I’m concerned. Sex is fun.

I normally do not judge the number of people someone has sex with, but this is way over the top.

If you ‘normally don’t judge’ the number of people a person has had sex with, why does it matter if it’s one or 2000 people? When, according to you, does the line get crossed into ‘too many’?

The amount of sexual partners should never matter, what matters is that they are not deliberately spreading diseases or that both/multiple participants are all concentrating.

You do seem to like starting.... controversial threads brasty. Have your parents given that cat back yet?

It depends on his age and orientation.

A man of 60 who has been cottaging and going to gay saunas all his life would get through 2,000.

A man of 40 who is straight is a commitment-phobe and a abuser of women.

A man of 20 is a liar.

Brasty - you've already posted threads about your views that sex 'should mean something'

Yes you do talk about it a fair bit. Why is this such a big deal to you? Do you wish you can let your hair down and just hump for the sake of it sometimes?

I’m trying to figure out if I’ve had SEX 2000 times!!

I think it's a bit odd people keeping a tally.

I am surprised that a thread about a man having 2,000 sexual partners is seen as controversial. That is an unusually high number of people to have had sex with.