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LBC.... Trans women and non trans women.

289 replies

therealposieparker · 21/11/2017 18:39

AIBU to expect us to be called women?

At first we're cis, then non men and now non-trans?

What the hell is happening?

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ClaryFray · 21/11/2017 18:42

I don't know. I don't care.

I call myself a women, cause I was born one. End off. Doesn't bother me what others refer to my sex. If someone insisted on calling me non trans to my face though there would be issues.

picklemepopcorn · 21/11/2017 18:44

LBC? In what context?

ItWentInMyEye · 21/11/2017 18:46

I don't like being called cis, because I'm a woman and want to be known as one. What other people want to call themselves doesn't really bother me.

Fekko · 21/11/2017 18:47

So what are men called these days?

FriendNoMore · 21/11/2017 18:51

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hazeyjane · 21/11/2017 18:52

Men. Preferably MEN.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/11/2017 18:53

TIMs (trans identifying male) and women would be my preferred terms. Transwomen are not a subset of women

Fekko · 21/11/2017 18:54

I identify as being a miserable old bat.

hazeyjane · 21/11/2017 18:54

No a transwoman is a transwoman, and as a transwoman deserves equal rights and respect and to live a life free from bullying. But a transwoman is not a woman.

FriendNoMore · 21/11/2017 18:55

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GinSoddenWhore · 21/11/2017 18:56

No Friend. They are not women. Saying it doesn't make it true.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/11/2017 18:56

No a transwoman is a transwoman,

No a Transwoman is a man who identifies as trans. I agree with the rest of what you wrote though Grin

I am starting to not use the term transwomen and I think it gives them undue legitimacy

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/11/2017 18:57

They are not a subset or anything else just women, like you and me

They really really arent

thelonelyhamster · 21/11/2017 18:58

Transwomen are not a subset of women

Women are not a subset of women either... that's what bothers me more. Not people wishing to identify into being a woman so much as the relegation of women even further down the pecking order.

Transwomen are women, actual women are a subset. Bonkers.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 21/11/2017 18:58

They are not a subset or anything else just women, like you and me

Care to offer a definition of ‘woman’ without using the word ‘woman’ or a sexist stereotype?

ScipioAfricanus · 21/11/2017 18:59

This is insanity. I’m not non-trans anymore than I’m non-butterfly.

Thedriftofstars · 21/11/2017 19:01

So having a penis makes you a woman, Friend?

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shutitandtidyupgitface · 21/11/2017 19:04

Yanbu to want to be called a women, YABU to TransWoman in your Title both you and them are just women no quailifers

NO. I am a woman. A person with a penis is not a woman of any kind, never mind is one just the same as I am.

This madness has to be challenged.

LaContessaDiPlump · 21/11/2017 19:04

Transwomen are not women. They can identify as women all they like and I'll nod politely and use their preferred pronouns, but we're not the same, anymore than I'd be a man just because I declared myself to be one.

shutitandtidyupgitface · 21/11/2017 19:05

some women can have a penis makes them no less a woman

Hello, Earth calling. Penis= not a woman.

streetlife70s · 21/11/2017 19:06

‘A woman’ is born with xx chromosomes and is born with a vagina, uterus, ovaries etc. Unless there is a specific medical abnormality that clouds the chromosomal distinction, a woman is an adult female.

If someone is born with XY chromosomes, is born with male sex organs and no female reproductive organs they are male.

Anything else including feelings, dress codes, behaviour or appearance cannot be used to change the biological facts.

crunchtime · 21/11/2017 19:06

having a penis is the very thing that prevents you from being a woman.

This really is the most bonkers thing ever!

Transpeople have every right to a decent life, to wear what they want, act as they like and have protection under law in terms of employment etc howver they are NOT women.

hazeyjane · 21/11/2017 19:08

Of course, a woman can have a penis, testicles, a tail, a full set of working mandibles and a unicorn horn. Anything is possible if you just believe.

Sod it, have it then, bugger biology, a transwoman is a woman. I'm a fucking goddess.

pisacake · 21/11/2017 19:08

"Yanbu to want to be called a women, YABU to TransWoman in your Title both you and them are just women no quailifers."

Says who?

Woman is a matter of biological fact.

Transwoman is literally meaningless, trans people themselves say so - someone is trans if they say they are trans.

Trans is an opinion.

Woman is biology.