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AIBU?

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To not pay friend back?

354 replies

Forevergazingupwards · 17/08/2017 18:58

Going through a bad break up and asked to see friend but she was busy that night and invited me to go with her to London the following weekend to visit a mutual friend.

I asked her about train tickets and at the end of the week she bought and paid for us both.

The night before my grandma died and so I didn't go. Now a month later and friend is chasing up the money for the train ticket. I don't think I should have to pay, aibu?

OP posts:
AgentProvocateur · 17/08/2017 18:59

Yes, YABU. Your friend is out of pocket. Of course you should pay.

divadee · 17/08/2017 18:59

Yes you are. Why should your friend be out of pocket cos you couldn't go. Yes it's a distressing event but that's not your friends problem.

Mayhemmumma · 17/08/2017 18:59

She should of let it go but as she's asked you need to pay I think.

BenLui · 17/08/2017 18:59

I'm very sorry about your Grandmother but why would you not pay?

Snap8TheCat · 17/08/2017 18:59

Reverse?

PinkHeart5911 · 17/08/2017 18:59

Well I think you should pay as she booked on your behalf.

Your friend is out of pocket so of course you would pay her back, why would you think it's ok not too?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 17/08/2017 18:59

Sorry about your GM but yes I do think you should pay.

ChickenBhuna · 17/08/2017 18:59

Which is more important to you? A few quid or a friendship.

glenthebattleostrich · 17/08/2017 18:59

Yes, I think you do need to pay. Sorry for your loss

Lj8893 · 17/08/2017 18:59

Of course you should pay.

It's very sad that your grandma died but that's not your friends fault, you still owe her for the tickets even if you didn't use them.

feathermucker · 17/08/2017 18:59

I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

However, it isn't your friend's fault that you didn't go. She bought the tickets and you owe her the money.

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 17/08/2017 19:00

Yes! Of course you should pay her back.

DevonLulu · 17/08/2017 19:00

Sorry. YABU. You need to pay

Lavabravacava · 17/08/2017 19:00

You owe your friend the money.

If you were my friend, and you had suffered a losss I wouldn't ask for the money back BUT I'm not broke. Maybe she is. Essentially you owe her the money.

PlaymobilPirate · 17/08/2017 19:00

Of course you need to pay her back.

What makes you think you shouldn't?

InfiniteCurve · 17/08/2017 19:00

You should pay ,why would you think you shouldn't? It sounds as if you are having a difficult time ,but there is no reason why your friend should be out of pocket.

StickThatInYourPipe · 17/08/2017 19:01

Why wouldn't you pay?

PaintingByNumbers · 17/08/2017 19:01

Honestly, its surprising your friend has asked, but as she has, I guess she either needs the money or is a shitty friend, either way, you should pay up.

Trudij123 · 17/08/2017 19:01

I'm fairly astonished you've left it a month and don't think you are unreasonable! Of course you should pay her back!!

SweetLuck · 17/08/2017 19:02

Yes, you should pay.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 17/08/2017 19:02

If the agreement before she bought the ticket was you would pay her for it, yes you are.
Just because you were unable to go doesnt mean you get to not pay for it, she cant get the money back its not fair shes out of pocket.

MadMags · 17/08/2017 19:02

Is this a reverse??

thebear1 · 17/08/2017 19:02

Unless there is more to this than in your post yabu.

DancingLedge · 17/08/2017 19:03

She should have claimed for the unused ticket, then she would only have been £10 out of pocket(fee), which morally is down to you.

Papafran · 17/08/2017 19:03

How much were the tickets? If you should not have to pay, why should she have to pay?

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