To think that the dull get too many advantages..

[scaryclown]

Just that really, I just feel that sometimes everything feels like it set up to help the dull.. Hang around for ages and you get promoted, don't have any interests or a social life, get a great credit rating, stay in one house for years and all the banks trust you, don't ever stick out, don't ever get hassled etc etc etc. .

Huh?

Have you been drinking?

OK

Welcome to adulthood

Yanbu.

I'm sure there'll be tons of Tory voters on here soon, ready to prove you and I wrong. Dullfuckers

So how fascinating are you, OP? And what kind of trouble are you in?

So you think people who get promoted or have good credit ratings only do so because they are dull?

I'll have whatever you've been having.

Are all the successful people you know dull then? Tory voters?!

P.S. They control the stock market, the dull fuckers do. Capitalism, it's what they do best.

Do you feel, perhaps, that you deserve more in life than these dull people you describe?

Philip Larkin wrote a poem to this effect 'Born Yesterday '
'May you be ordinary
Have, like, other women
An average of talents
Not ugly, not good looking...
In fact, may you be dull-'
He wrote that as a dedication to Sally Amis, his friend Kingsley's daughter.

I'm a dull fucker. I'm in bed before 9 on a satuday. That's my lovely bed in my big house from where I will take my new car to my fantastically paid job. Being dull means I live the life I want too.

Ps I'm no Tory voter. I'm a liberal at heart and a rebel behind closed doors.

I see your OP in that light. Sally Amis would have been far happier if she'd had a dull life. As it was she suffered from alcoholism and died young :(

Paying your bills on time and being a reliable person doesn't mean you have no interests or social life. You just pursue those things outside working hours.

You're right, financial institutions tend to like people to stay in a similarish place rather than hare off to Kathmandu because the sunlight glimmered on the water in a poetic way.

But a life well lived isnt typically judged by knowing all the keyboard shortcuts on excel either!

I am very grateful to be dull and to lead a dull life.
Stability, no fear of chaos, knowing what happens next has a lot to commend it.

I am fascinated by some people's very interesting lives, full of drama and ups and downs, but it makes me feel exhausted just watching them...

Being scarily bitter doesn't bring many advantages in life either

What on earth are you talking about?

If you were so amazing and fun, surely you wouldn't be spending your Saturday night on MN.

Youre pretty narrow minded if you think staying in one house is dull. If you find somewhere you love living why would you move? We're near a city with loads to do.

I mean.. aren't the rich and powerful living quite not-dull lives? Money, freedom, risk-seeking sexual misdemeanours?

Never been in a place where people were promoted just because they had been around for ages. But, yes, people who work hard and do the sensible thing can often (but not always - tons of people slog their arses off and get v.little for it, while many others benefit from in-built privileges) get on in life: that's just fine by me.

I'm just a little bit sick that my extremely boring friend actually wants her plodding job, no life existence, and has more money saved than they can imagine what to do with, whereas I feel extremely constrained and limited and miserable, and can't seem to save a bean. I just think low income should go to people who actually want a get up work go to bed life. I choose something else...

I wish you'd get some RL help with this stuff.