New mum clubbing

[MrsG841]

A friend of mine has just become a first time mum and her LO is 6 days old.

She messaged a few us to organise going clubbing at weekend.

AIBU to think that she shouldnt think about this at such an early stage?

None of your business, put your judgy pants away

Why not?

Yes YABU she can have a night out if she feels like it.

Although why she'd invite you I'm not sure?

If she feels up to it then good for her!

Bring back confinement I say.

For you, not for her.

Well, you'll probably get slated for judging.

But I'd fucking judge. That is actually quite shit.

My one question though is is she sketchy in general? or do you think she might be coming a bit undone? Puerperal psychosis for example?

It's entirely up to her when she chooses to go out...everyone's different.

Oh, that was three questions. Sorry.

I think that's really odd, but I doubt many on here will agree.

She's probably looking forward to letting her hair down after the long haul of pregnancy. The reality of looking after a newborn may not truly have hit her. If you want to go, go. If not don't.

Haha I knew it. People falling over themselves to claim it's totally normal and find to leave a 6 day old baby for a night out on the tiles.

I love MN.

Good for her that she feels well enough to do so! I couldn't have managed it.

Yeah, I'd judge/find that odd. I wouldn't say anything naturally, but it isn't my bag either in terms of company or actions.

She's just had a baby, after 9 months of carrying it. If she wants a night out and feels up to it why shouldn't she? Bsby will be well looked after. I went to a colleagues leaving do when my youngest was 10 days old, it was excellent bonding time for baby and Daddy and Daddy loved it.

What's the acceptable age then Essie ? Do tell us, so we can be good mothers.

My first was 2 weeks when I went out with my friends, my husband had him, what exactly is shit about it?

Im not saying she cant let her hair down or go out i just personally think its a bit soon. Also she has never been 1 to hava couple of drinks she will go out and get completely hammered. I just feel that maybe give it a couple of weeks to settle in as a mum

On MN the majority will probably say it's fine to leave your week old baby for a night on the town, or to jet off on holiday and leave your 5 week old for a fortnight with the grandparents and the like.

In reality it's shit parenting and i'd judge the fuck out of her, as would most in rl.

Why not?
Dads do it. Go out within the first 2 weeks.

She wants to go out after 9 months of pregnancy. I think it's fine. I have known people to do it at a similar baby stage. They only lasted an hour. Sometimes you have to do this to make you feel more human.

I would advise her not to go. Majorly changeable hormones plus first alcohol in ages and maybe lack of sleep equals trouble. My friend was insistent she wanted to go out, few drinks later she ended up in a fight😯.

Of course I would judge. Good for her if she is physically well, but who would want to drop your newborn to go clubbing? That's just weird.If she is already bored of him at 6 days, it's not looking good for the future. Most parents actually enjoy spending time with their babies. If the father is already left with the newborn now, I hope he's not the kind to want to see his own mates, or you can imagine the endless arguments about having to stay with the child.

I could just about understand wantin to meet for coffee or a drink, but clubbing? Blimey

I don't think it's normal and I certainly wasn't up to going clubbing at that point but I wouldn't judge her for it. If she feels up to it, good for her! We spent most of DH's paternity leave going for lovely long pub lunches with a couple of glasses of wine, I hope no one judged me.

I envy her energy and organisation, tbh.

She's entitled to have a life. The younger her child experiences being away from her and looked after by someone else the quicker and easier he/she will settle into it. It's all about balance. If mum is going out clubbing every weekend or leaving baby every other night of the week then judgy pants might be appropriate but equally a parent who never has time out or won't trust their LO to the care of someone else will come to regret it.

Its not what id do... but i dont think I'd be bothered enough to post on here about it, unless she's leaving the baby with next door but 6 or 7 i wouldn't care.